So alone

[N1888]

It's been over 5yrs since my divorce and my depression and anxiety have kept me pretty isolated. I don't believe I can ever find someone to get close to again I feel like I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life. I honestly have no idea how to move forward from this.

[Dolphin14]

N1888

Welcome to the community

I'm sorry about your divorce and isolation.

Are you working on re socializing with people?

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[N1888 in reply to Dolphin14]

Yeah I have a job but I just don't trust people anymore so I'm always turning down everything they invite me to be a part of.

[Dolphin14 in reply to N1888]

Understandable Trust is huge.

I think it's all about small steps.

[N1888]

The divorce is 5yrs gone so it wasn't so much the divorce itself it was being gaslit by someone I trusted without question. I found out she was living with a guy when she was telling me she wanted us to work out our problems and I'd call her on her living situation and she would lie and say she's staying with her grandma and it was 2yrs of lies and gas lighting I don't think I can ever trust another person again so I have avoided all attempts to date or anything in that area.

[Snowflake77]

My therapist said. You are good enough for anyone. If they reject you it because they are busy. It is not you. It is there lost. Because they miss out meeting an amazing person.

I am going through a divorce now. I see it as a second chance at happiness.

You can not push people away. You have to put yourself out there. You may or may not get hurt. But you have to take chances.

[MassamanCurry]

I'm in the same boat, more or less. I'll tell you the same thing I was told; get out and join a club or group. That's hard for me as I am, as a rule, an introvert. But there is some truth to it. You say you don't trust people? I understand that and yet, I know that you have to take chances or NOTHING happens. I'm tired of being alone because it brings on anxiety. I'm trying it! Give yourself time to feel more confident but do give it a chance. I've started by going to a coffee shop/game place for a latte. There's mostly younger people but I liked the overall vibe of the place. I talked to the young men who owned it and asked questions about their business. They were very genial, told me about the special events they had and encouraged me to come back. I'm trying to muster up the courage. I'll be back on here soon, I hope, and will tell you how I did. If nothing is ventured, nothing is gained!

[froggymom88]

Divorce is so difficult to deal with. It will take time but you will heal. Now is a time to explore what went wrong in the marriage but also what you would like in anew relationship. Take up be a new hobby or two and go for therapy to help you do all of this. I am will be praying for you.