I guess

[AvaP]

...everyone is asleep already?😔

Or anyone connected somewhat to my posts

Think I need to start accepting the fact that even this site isn't always there when you need it. ..

😳

[Gloria_carr]

I"m still up & ive been posting for 2 days no response either it bothered me @ 1st but that nobody responded but then i had to look at it this way we are all here for some form of aniexty so maybe ppl are busy dealing. With there aniexty. But if u need someone to talk to i"m here or private message me if its personal

[AvaP in reply to Gloria_carr]

True. Thank you

[Sarah1111111]

hi, I think at times this site is quiet, especially now its the summer holidays. if you need help and support immediately its better to post on here but also call a helpline like Samaritans. people do reply it just takes a little while.

[RyRywifey Ambassador]

Yes at times the replies can be slow, and also sometimes it's hard for posts to be seen because so many of us are posting all day constantly, and all of us are waiting for eachother to reply lol, but keep posting!! I promise it's not quiet all of the time

[Hidden]

Unfortunately on a site like this sometimes you get more people posting than replying. Replying and trying to help others is entirely voluntary and often people just post and don't bother replying to anyone else. Depression can be a selfish illness.

I don't tend to reply to new people, or only put in a stock reply, until I find out if they are ok. I have been bitten too often trying to help others only to be slagged off. As I am here for my own issues too I don't need it. x

[Gloria_carr]

Thanks Goldie sometimes ppl cry out for help on this site thinking its a quick fix, i tend to not come here so much as before because were expecting someone if only 1 person show support & no one respond it only adds to the aniexty i have my family thats here for me also so this site will not become a crutch for me hope avia find someone other than this site to depend on & i mean that avia in no disrespect avia because i understand & thank u goldie 11 for caring enought to respond😊 i dont know what part of the world you @ but hope you have a peaceful night

[Hidden]

Hi Ava have you seen the replies to this post, and also the one you posted on another site? x

[AvaP in reply to Hidden]

Hello, Yes Im on break at work so reading them now.

A bit mixed feelings towards some responses.

Maybe theyre right in saying this site isn't that great in the immediate support I need during a crisis moment...

[HearYou in reply to AvaP]

Don't wait until a crisis comes. This isn't a crisis site, but this venue has the phone numbers for the crisis lines in GB, USA, etc. You can sometimes defuse a crisis moment by posting and sharing back what is helping you before things eventually crisis help. And many people cannot use their phones or computers during working hours. However, it's not too difficult to figure out what part of the world is waking up as you are getting ready for bed. Just remember Australia is part of this venue, and is about 12 hours ahead of mid USA, and the east coast of the US is ahead of the west coast by 3-4 hours. London is about 4-5 hours ahead o the US east coast, and so on. So you can post and maybe look for replies in areas that people are home if you just calculate the time.

Hope that helps and wish more people would post some positive things that have helped them and only post when they need support.

[Gloria_carr in reply to HearYou]

Thats true i was thinking that yesterday i wanted to post my day with my grandkids & pics but i thought who wants to see this then i didnt post that happy moment maybe next time

[Hidden]

I was unable to finish the body of my post for some reason. No matter where I clicked, I could not type. I could still click on the heading, topic, etc. and type. Thank you for your help.

[20Voices]

If you need someone there during the night Samaritans and Breathing Space are good charities to call. I called Samaritans one night when I really needed someone and they were great with patiently listening to my rambles and ensuring that I was safe.

I hadn't called them before because I felt that I would be stopping them from being there for someone in a worse state than me. When I told my doctor that I had called them and why I had called them before he told me in a kind way that I did right and not to feel guilty to call them again if I needed to.

I view the forums as a way for me to speak to like minded people who understand what you are going through. They are good for knowing you are not allow and asking questions that you feel silly asking your family or health professional. They are also a good place to find out what techniques others have tried/used and this can give your ideas for you to try yourself.

You tend to find the people to look after the forums are unpaid volunteers and that they can't be around 24/7 because of their own life commitments. It can get quiet at times and also if it is a busy day for posts some posts can get lost and it could take a while for other members to get back to you.

What I do though is if I post and no one replies I spend time having a look at other posts, even the really old ones. There is no telling what little snippets you can find that might be helpful. Also doing this can distract you from how you are feeling at the moment and that too can be helpful.

Take care and don't be afraid to call your local support lines when you need them.

[AvaP in reply to 20Voices]

Yes, thank you.

I did call a place after fighting with myself about for 2 hrs.

And when u finally called around 3am the voice was so cold. I pushed myself to ask a couple questions and the response was so emotion less that I just said thanks quickly and hung up...

and this was a place I was also referred to by my therapist for the intensive counseling. That call has given me 2nd thoughts..

I will try the ones you've mentioned or research others that are on my end.

Thank you again.

[20Voices in reply to AvaP]

Could just be the person you spoke to and if you call some other time you might speak to someone different.

[HearYou in reply to 20Voices]

Where are these organizations located? UK or US and the phone numbers please.

Thanks.

[20Voices in reply to HearYou]

Samaritans and Breathing Space are UK charities. They had websites and I don't have a note of their numbers. I have called the Samaritans once and just got the number from their website. I have heard about Breathing Space because of TV adverts in the UK.

[AvaP]

Thank you for your responses everyone.

As it is a few hrs since I've posted, I still feel the same way just not as intensely. Feel VERY numb as I ring these customers out.

Hope it alleviates within a couple hrs.

[20Voices in reply to AvaP]

I used to just feel flat after I had had a bad time with my anxiety. Now I don't mind it so much, because I was on medication a while ago where I would swing from being really anxious to almost euphoric.

I decided it was better feeling flat than the dramatic swings in how I was feeling.

It is finding what works for you and what you need to do to settle yourself again that is key. I won't lie , it can take hard work and time to try various things to see what really suites you but for me it had been worth it.

I learned to use Gratitude meditation, relaxation, critical thought records, vision boards, positive affirmations. I use music and crafts to help as well. My days now have a good routine and I have times in the day for journalling, meditation and relaxation.

I have an inflatable punch tower that I use when I need to burn energy in the middle of the night when I can't sleep or if I feel overwhelmed with anger.

You will get there.

[Bingh]

I come to this site as a place to read what other sufferers have to say about what they are going through--finding things I can relate to, learning ideas to try, and hearing answers I never thought of--and not necessarily to have direct responses personally to me. It's not a crisis line, and we are all suffering from the same things but in our own ways. No one has all the answers. But there is so much to learn just from reading all the posts. Thank you everyone! We are here to not be alone.