Getting Family to understand

[DevonBlimke]

I’m having the worst anxiety breakdown I’ve had in years. I can’t seem to find a way to make the people around me understand, it’s like one second I exist to them but as soon as I’m upset I have nobody to go to, I find myself moving or staying at friends house to feel comfort because just being around someone helps the slightest even when they don’t have a clue what’s going on. Thing is my ex is the only one thet can pretend to understand but even she doesn’t and I don’t know if she even wants to. I’m running out of options and tired of begging people to understand, no sleep no eating not finding joy in anything I love. I just sit here hoping my ex will understand before it’s too late to be understood 😶

[Kat63]

I’m in a similar situation. I lost my job a little over a month ago, and I have savings to cover the next couple of months but after that, I don’t know.

I need people very badly; being by myself is agonizing. I, too, find myself leaning on friends and family a little harder when the anxiety gets really bad.

[DevonBlimke in reply to Kat63]

I actually moved into a tiny town to be with my girlfriend as she is still in high school and I’m 18 I lost a very crucial and very reliable job all because my anxiety was too much one day and you can’t call in on a probation day. I lost the job which was the downfall to losing my girlfriend. As you I have funds to last me until hopefully I can find a job the suits me but in a small community it’s hard sometimes it’s easier when the whole world doesn’t recognize you in a big city, kinda makes everyone feel equally important in a way ? 🤷‍♂️ Idk just ranting seems to help, I hope you get better and remember, even though you can’t have a job because of your anxiety your anxiety might be worse without one, bills become so frustrating and when you have to look to family to help out it becomes more stressful. You’ll figure it out as will I in time I guess

[Hidden]

The lack of understanding is what makes anxiety worse, there have been times when I have avoided my family because they will worsen it, by telling me what I need to do. It's the worst feeling, I got so bad yesterday that I rung the Samaritans because I just needed someone to talk to. I'm sure what I told him he thinks I'm lying, but I felt so much better for talking, I know what your going through, it's so isolating it's unnerving

[ashesb03]

I feel the same way. My brother doesn't seem to care, and my Aunt just says to not be anxious or sad because my girls need me to be strong. That in turn just makes me feel worse. I'm already worried that I'm not as good of a mom as I feel like I should be. So I just don't really call my family much anymore. Thankfully I have my husband and my best friend.

I hope things get better for you. You can anyways talk on here. Thankfully we have a bunch of people here who understand.

God Bless!!

[ashesb03]

I just saw this post it's 5 months old. I hope things are going better for you!

[Khuneycu]

Anxiety can be such a horribly isolating thing. Unless someone else has experienced it before or still suffers with it, they're just not going to understand. It's an illness as real as a physical one and it can truly be debilitating. The mind is so incredibly powerful... So powerful that when we want to shut off the anxious and overwhelming thoughts we simply can't because our mind is somehow stronger than our desired will. Someone that hasn't gone through it doesn't understand we can't just snap out of it and be normal and happy. It's a constant struggle where some days are easier than others and some days are just downright unbearable... But please know you're not alone and there are so many of us who understand exactly what you're going through. To someone who doesn't suffer from anxiety, we look like attention seekers but no one knows more than we do how much we WANT to be normal and not bogged down by all this anxiety and fear. I'm praying for you. You're gonna get through it... Don't expect or try to force others to understand. Just do whatever you're able to and keep on pushing through it. You'll get there. <3