please people i need little advice about this

[briannpaul]

Hi everyone i hope you're doing well , can someone please help me

i only need a good comparison or a different way to see this

i've always been happy my entire life , untill when i had a panick attack about almost 3 years ago , after that i got anxious and little depressed because they were new feelings for me.Happily , i did found my way since many many months ago , i faced and solved my problems , understood how to beat the anxiety trick (total life changment and re-gained my old happy confidednt self)

The problem now is that we moved to a new house (me and my family) and it happened to be in the time where i was still traumatized and stuck in anxiety and bad feelings.The first 2 months that i lived in this NEW house , i was still in the worst part of my life. Just like a perfume that reminds someone of a bad breakup with a partner and he wants to get rid of it , same thing for me with this home.Even if had also many good moments , but THAT bad BEGINNING , i just couldnt forget it ,so i never accepted staying in this house.I explained to my parents this but they didnt accept to move from this house, and its been months since i did nothing new in my life , only waiting untill i move from here and then i start having a real life

=> i think this way because i'm afraid and dont want to remember that the BEGINING of a NEW major event of my life took place in this house , and if i were to remember it in the future i would feel very bad

if it happened in our old house i would totaly accept it and that's because it would have happened in the middle ,not at the BEGINNING of living in the house , just like life , sometimes we fall down in life and we continue,all of that makes sense to me , my problem is because it happened at THE BEGINNING .This may seem stupid for you but it is very important and it effects me alot.

Can someone help me what to do or How to think diferently about this beginning obsession ,any good comparison or metaphor?

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Would you mind revealing what big new major event occurred in the house you now live? That may help members of this venue to better understand your feelings and perhaps have some advice and understanding to offer you. Could you share your age when you moved from the first house into the one you are now living.?

[briannpaul]

hi there thanks for your reply no major event occurred , i said i dont want to do something new just because i dont want to remember that it's begging occured in this home , also i moved here when i was nineteen

what im looking for is just a comparison that makes sense to me for me to accept starting doing things from this place , if that makes sense

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hello?

[DragonTears]

Hi briannpaul, just came across your post and wanted to reply

Us humans can be so funny when it comes to attaching emotions and symbolic meanings to physical things. We react to things so strongly if they trigger an emotion, a memory, a dream. We are so complex and so very smart, that we even trick ourselves sometimes. It sounds to me that you have made a symbol out of the fact that you moved to a NEW house and your anxiety and depression became the start of your new life in the new house and now you have made the connection between the two as if it has a meaning and is affecting your life today. You have to find a way to cut that emotional bond between the place and the event. Also you have to find a way to accept what happened, learn from it, but let go of it.

All easier said than done, of course. I would like you to think about that event and try to understand what exactly it meant to you. For example, you said these feelings were new to you. That you used to be a happy person. Do you think you have forever changed because of the anxiety attack? do you think you are broken? Do you feel shame? Do you feel that the anxiety and depression makes you a worse person? a weak person? Are you focusing on the negative only?

remember that it is also in the same place where you faced your fears, the place where you were strong enough to get better, where you were brave enough to be weak and receive help. It is a place where you started to build yourself up, where you grew as a human being, where you learned something about yourself. Whatever you did or said when you were at your worst, was OK, your mind and body were tired, out of your control, you were overwhelmed and exhausted. You don't have to regret or forget any of it, it is OK. We all have been there. It does not define who you are, it was your body's reaction to stress and just life. You fell, but you stood up again. This new house is where you healed. Forgive yourself for letting it affect you for so long and let it go. Embrace the lesson it taught you and remember that you are still you, nothing is lost, you just have to love yourself again. Take back control. Maybe redecorate the room and make it look different, that sometimes helps too.

Big Hugs! Xx