Helping someone with depression

[Sabrina8292]

Hi my name is Sabrina. I'm not depressed, but someone I love dearly is and I don't know how to help him. I have reached my emotional limit, but I don't want to give up because I love him. If anyone has some advice it would be much appreciated.

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Hi it must be soul destroying to love someone so much and have to watch them suffer and I really do feel for you.

There is however only a certain amount you can do as it will be up to them to seek help. I presume your loved one is under the care of a doctor and maybe a counsellor as well?

It's hard to know what to say really as you give so little information. Can you tell us any more please?

[Kobojunkie]

i hate to be the one to tell you this but you cannot help him or change him. To love someone means to accept that person exactly as they are.

Only he can help himself. He knows is depressed, and probably knows he needs to go see a psychiatrist for help so as not to ruin his relationship. If he values the relationship, he would do whatever he can to help heal himself , not have you carry that burden you seem to be carrying there. there are billions living with depression all over the world and many have had to change their lives to better manage their conditions so as not to burden their loved ones unnecessarily. if this person is a grown man, and really cares about you , he ought to go every where he can to get help so he does not burden you with his ailment.

[BonnieSue]

Your loved one needs your help to get counseling and a doctor unless he already has these professionals. If he does, I have to ask why they aren't more effective? Could you possibly go to an appointment with him or does your friend have a close relative or other friend who would be better suited to go with him to his appointment(s) to see what can be done to help your loved one become much healthier? I believe this is where help must begin for your loved one.