I'm new here...

[darkevenings]

Hi, I'm new here, I've been struggling with depression and anxiety for a little over 4 years. My anxiety has gotten the best of me and I feel trapped with very little motivation to get out of my current state. All around me people are trying to help me out, but I keep pushing them away. My therapist hasn't been effective either and I just feel like no one can fix me, not even myself. I have paranoid thoughts due to my anxiety and am constantly over thinking. I don't know how to get out of the state I am in despite how badly I want to get better. What do I do?

[BonnieSue]

Hello, how are you?

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Hello. Let's review what has been happening. You seem anxious and depressed at the moment and don't fell like doing anything because you are depressed.

You have people around you to help, but you "push" them away.

You want to do something to help you feel better, but don't believe anything can, not even yourself and your therapist has not been helpful.

Did I get all correctly?

Sounds like you are having a really rough time and feeling alone. Why and how did you "push" people away that could help you? Are they friends, or family that are concerned about you?

What is the therapist actually doing for you and saying to you that makes you feel he/she is not helping?

Do you think you're just tired right now because you are depressed, and that is making you a bit mad and frustrated that you haven't stopped the anxiety and depression?

Ok, you didn't become depressed and anxious overnight, and it is going to take time with the help of other people to become less depressed and anxious.

You have the control to change your life. Instead of pushing away people who can help you, try asking for help from them. If you think the therapist isn't helping, you need to tell him/her this. Therapists can't read minds. Therapists need to know wat's going on with you and how you feel about their approach to you so they can determine a more productive way of working with you to get better.

I can see you are frustrated and down and maybe a bit mad. You would like things to change. But you are going to have to make the first step. Talk to the people you push away, and talk to your therapist. Know that is hard for you to do, but it is a good first step to get help.

There are no magic ways to wave a magic wand and solve everything.I wish I had such a wand to help you.....but you are the only one holding the key to get better a the moment.

Hang in there. Look around you and start reaching out instead of pushing or pulling away. I think you might start seeing a difference if you do.

We're here to listen and to encourage you, and you can "talk" to us anytime. You deserve better in your life. But you need to use some effort to make things better.

We're here. We'll listen. We'll share our suggestions when asked. So best wishes for your next day when you talk to your therapist and the other people who can help you.

[cvitela]

Keep trying and don't give up sometimes battles are harder to defeat than others but I suffered from depression and anxiety for years and now I am doing much better. No meds and sleep through the night....if you need encouragement​ call or text...806 777-8142... Calvin.

[Middlesister]

I totally get what you are saying. My anxiety is so bad that I don't even drive at night or road trips bc I get scared of crashing....that's one of my newest issues.

By the way I'm new to this forum as well. Hope it helps us get through the shadow moments.