Contraceptives

[Love_hope_happiness]

Hey i'm 14 years old and am sexually active ive had two sexual partners since the age of 13 ( I know its bad) I want to get some kind of contraceptives as I do not want to get pregnant and have already had to take the morning after pill twice I was thinking of getting the coil because it lasts longer and has 100% chance. Would I be aloud to get one? do my parents need to know ? Any advice would be appreciated

Many thanks xox

[cup_cake]

If your under the age of 18 maybe your doctors would would consider an adult, but if you feel confident enough to tell your doctor you should as safety is very important

[mysmugcat]

I think it is good you are protecting yourself. I do feel the need to say that at least in the UK the boys or men you are having sex with are breaking the law as you are under 16. Does not matter if you consent. They could end up with a criminal record at least in the UK.

It may now sound contradictory but I do wish you the best. Pm anytime.

[Gweeda]

Hey Sweetheart,

I think the fact that you have sought out a place to talk about this shows your maturity. Also, your honesty is really refreshing!

Have you read all about the coil? Each form of contraception has its own benefits and drawbacks. For you, I'd say one thing completely not in any judgement but as an adult who was the same at your age...any form of birth control will not protect you from infections unless it's a condom. I know they are not 100% protection but you could also have a form of birth control as a back up.

If you have already had the morning after pill, your doctor will have it in your notes and will be happy to talk to you about birth control. They will be pleased to see that you are taking control of this issue so maturely. (I'm assuming you're in the uk??) As you are over the age of 14 they can talk to you about this without any other adult present. They are not allowed to discuss this with your parents as they are duty bound by patient confidentiality not to discuss you with anyone other than other health professionals involved in your care.

I am also happy to talk, any time, and you can feel free to pm me if you want any other help/info.

I have a son at 18 and a daughter at 9. When my son turned 14, I bought condoms and put them in his drawer, not saying a word so as not to embarrass him. I just thought, he's getting to that age where - if it's not him, one of his mates might need one and it's better that someone has some!.......He totally called me on it. He said "I go to one house party and suddenly you think I'm some sort of sex pest?!". Lol. We are really close (although we have our moments!) and NOTHING is off limits for discussion. Everyone needs someone like that and I'm proud he chose me. Don't think I'll have it too easy when my daughter hits her teens though - eek!

[Love_hope_happiness in reply to Gweeda]

Thank you xx I am planning to go to my doctors when I get back as i'm on my holiday xx

[BeatrizGil]

Also, please protect yourself against STDS, they may sound like a remote thing to you, because you know your partners, and so on and so forth but you never know. Make them use condoms ALWAYS. Be strong and say NO WITHOUT A CONDOM. It can save your life.