I hit my one year anniversary for being on my weight loss journey on Thursday during which I've lost 7 stone and people are noticing and complimenting me a lot. However I seem to be hitting the self destruct button, I'm on day 3 of mindless binge eating.
I'm at the halfway point to my goal weight and I'm in that frustrating phase of my old clothes are baggy but all my other clothes are still to small or unflattering to wear. I've got lots of social events coming up and I'm back in that mindset of stuffing myself stupid for the whole week leading up to the social event. Considering I've got an eating event every weekend for the next 4 weeks this does not bode well for me.
I know exactly where your coming from. Ive been keeping the weight off apart from holidays and Christmas for the last year after my weight loss of 33kg at my heaviest. Up until 2 weeks ago like yourself was on a eating mission. I put on 7 kg over a 6/8 week period. Been back on the exercise and eating sensible and now only got 1.5 kg to lose. Just try and focus on what was working before and reset your mind. Not worry you can do it.
Ive had a another good week weight gone down by 1.5 kg. Only got 1.2 kg to hit my target weight of 85 kg.Fingers crossed a good push and will hit it by end of this month so
Hi Hidden sorry to hear that you’re struggling. I wish I had the answer to share, unfortunately there is no logic to binge eating, not for me anyway. I am currently on my 6 th day binge free, which is the longest I’ve gone in a while. I can only take it a day at a time and not plan too far ahead. It’s my birthday soon, I know I will eat, drink and be ‘merry,’ but will struggle to get back on track afterwards. Unfortunately I am not too good at moderation, I tend to be ‘all or nothing’. I really hope you get back on the wagon soon and try to enjoy the summer ahead. 😊
So good to here of your huge weight loss. You just have to hang in there. I have lost three stones, and i feel health wise so better for it. I am now never tempted to eat anything like sweets cakes ect. My BP is now lower., Get back on track. You can do it. Your body will thank you for it.. I wish you all the best.
What's your secret. I still need help with the sweet stuff and I've tried fruit as a replacement I tend to have it in larger quantities and still have the chocolate
HelloBJ2020 When i do have the urge to binge i only have healthy foods in the house. If i have salads i have a large one. Instead of bread i will have a wrap. Boring but true water before a meal always does help. If you cheat, the only person you do cheat is you. We are what we eat. That is why i was fat. The day when i saw myself in the mirror in the buff i new i had to change. So come on BJ2020 You can do it.Bronearth.
We can do it!! I think the recognition of people in person and online is messing with my head a bit. Short term I think I need the restart badge until I can get my head straight
Oh i know exactly what you mean Iamwhatiam. The psychological struggles that come with the compliments and recognition is very real. It does pass though, i struggled for a couple of months when my head got in a spin. Then one day, out of the blue, i felt it was all ok. Having my badge did help me to keep the damage limited though. I record all my weigh-ins in a notebook too just so i can look and smile at it. I think it helped to believe what's been achieved 😊 xx
Oh it is, and it doesn't make sense. I got in a similar spin over losing consistently every week too!! I know, stupid right, but my head (at the time) was telling me that weight loss doesn't work like that so i must be ill!! I struggled to accept it was just normal for me!
Oh I've been there my friend. Years ago. But that time it eas my weight watchers leader saying I was losing too quickly and that I must get myself to the doctor. Even when I went and they said I was fine she kept insisting something was wrong. Its taken me nearly 10 years to overcome the mental damage she did
Oh i can believe it. I've certainly learned a lot being here on this forum. Its also good to know others have had the same issues. Its always better when you know you're not alone 💖 xx
Woke up with a bad mind set but have had my breakfast and doing ok so far. Trying to find something to do so I'm not sat here thinking about it all day.
I nearly talked myself into binging again but then managed to talk myself back out of it. I've had my tea, stuck to plan and hoping it stays that way. Made a pasta bake for 2 evening meals this week which makes me happy. I dislike having to come in and make my tea.
I woke up in a better mindset. Managed ok today. Tomorrow will be hard though because I'm meeting some friends for tea. Trying to plan ahead and gonna try to go for the healthy option. Worried the chips will prove too tempting.
Mad isn't it? Aiming to go for one of the under 600 calories meals. The sooner they get calories on all menus the better. Hate having to guess how many I'm eating.
Last night was a nice meal out where I did go over my DA. Today has been ok. Tomorrow will be bad because I’m going out. If I can just keep getting back to normal after social occasions I hope to achieve that STS
I’m feeling a weird mix of elation and misery. I went on a school trip to a theme park yesterday and was so unbelievably happy that I was able to fit into 3 rides. I love thrill rides and have not been able to enjoy them for 10 years due to being too big. I had a wonderful day. I didn’t make good choices food wise sadly and went out last night for a friends birthday. I was meant to draw my line today and start afresh but being a little worse for wear has meant another day of eating. I’m planning to start afresh tomorrow, but sat here chewing that I won’t be able to now I’ve reached one of my NSV goals. I feel like one of my huge motivators is now gone and it’s really scaring me.
Ooh that's AWESOME, way to go girl, so pleased you had a smashing day !
Course you'll be able to get back on track, come up with another goal, you're amazing, you can do this ! I think you need to join Progressoverperfect on today's chat to put in writing why you're so awesome! x
Every moment you don’t give in to those voices is a win. I sometimes find going to bed early helps cos it stops me going haywire in the cupboard!!! I try and remind myself how proud of myself I will feel in the morning when I don’t overeat all evening x
Hi, IamwhatIam517, sorry you're struggling with your feelings at your half way stage, and it's really good that you've come here and said it. Your weight loss is phenomenal. If you have a good plan that you enjoy, a short period off-track will be reversible.
About badges: Restart is for people who have been away from the forum for 6 months or so. I see you're an active member of the famous Wobblers and that's where you earned your badge. You'll also have seen there that members drop a badge and then regain it, which is what we're all aiming for. Your badge is recognition of what you've achieved, and what an achievement it is
Sorry to read you’re struggling with feelings of self sabotage. I can relate. The feeling of a lack of control around eating is very frustrating. How is your self care at the moment? Are you stressed? Have you been sleeping well? Are you well hydrated? Sometimes hormones can cause an increase in appetite and cravings. You could do some food preparation for the next few days to get back on track. You have done so much hard work already so you know you are capable of breaking the cycle and getting back to a healthy balance. Keep going and best wishes!
Thank you. Its more I have some things coming up that despite losing 7 stone I'm know I'm still too big to do (theme parks and high ropes) this knowledge is the reason for pushing the self destruct button.
Seems like those thoughts of that are causing you stress. Do you have to go to the theme park? Will you be disappointed if you put it off for a while or avoid it?
Oh I'm sorry to hear what you're going through and I've been there many times. Just keep focusing on getting back on track each time and realising that we are all learning here and without it I know I would give up completely. That's the easy way out and not for us! You are stronger than you think and have come a long way x I must admit though that baggy clothes never make me feel good and I go to charity shops as I don't want to buy in-between clothes and keep imagining myself at my ideal weight 😊 have a great day
At least because you are aware you can stop it. Water is your friend try to go for that when you are thinking of eating something. Working on it myself. Well done on losing 7st in a year
For what it's worth I think the advice you gave in the first paragraph was excellent (about what advice the post writer would give to you if roles reversed. I suffer with weight/food and self-sabotage and I'm going to take on board what you said. Though it wasn't aimed at me, thanks! All the best to you and IamwhatIam517 too
First of all well done on all you've lost so far.Secondly you may be on a binge BUT you've done a good thing and come on here so doing something about it.
I think we've all been in that phase for one reason or another but you can pull it back and first thing is admitting it which you have.
How about sitting down and planning your meals for the week and just buying food for that, if junk not there can't eat it or if other people in house have a cupboard just for them. Try putting a pic of yourself at fattest on there and think I don't want to be that person anymore.
Hi there, just wanted to pick up on what you said regarding being at your half way point your clothes being either too baggy or too small... If you've lost 7 stone so far, then unless there's severe financial constraints I'd say you really deserve some new outfits by now!
I know it can be frustrating (and feel like wasting money) buying clothes you will hopefully shrink out of soon, but it can be a real morale booster. You'll be able to see and appreciate the results of all your weight loss efforts; you'll be able to notice any additional weight loss in another way than just the scales; and if you were to put on a bit of weight again (ouch) those nice new clothes will fit less well, and believe me that's a good motivator too!
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Thank you for your support. Sadly I do have financial constraints that prevent me from indulging in new clothes but I have a backlog of clothes in various sizes which to me class as "new clothes". They just don't fit right....yet.
I am a terrible binge eater. No matter how hard i try i can't stop binging. I am my own worst enemy. Not even sitting on a garden chair that broke under me and having to crawl up the garden path made me change my ways. Not even a mini stroke and gout has made me change. I only have myself to blame. Which i do frequently.
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You've done amazingly well, I'm sure you'll get back on track. I've been binging for most of this year after a 4 month no-binge streak leading up to Christmas. Frustrating to say the least.
Hi Hidden I just thought I would pop in and ask you how you are doing today? Is the compulsion to overeat still with you or are you feeling more steady now?
I can relate to so, so much of what you've said throughout this post.
I struggle with binge eating too, and I definitely find myself in a danger zone when I have reached a few goals but still feel far from the finish line, still feel unhappy in my shape or size.. especially if I get positive comments from people. What do you think are the triggering feelings?
I think it is an anxiety for me, that I still have so far to go and also that I have an audience. The road ahead seems too long and steep and I find myself ragefully self-sabotaging. That is one thing I have definitely experienced. However bingeing is something I feel compelled to do for myriad reasons, very often. A lot if it is connected to low self esteem I feel - an "I can't do it" or " I dont want to be looked at" feeling. Another layer of it is self soothing for depressive or anxious moments - particularly the latter. Now that Ive tuned into this, I see it so much clearer in the moment. I've noticed myself feeling frantic for something to eat right before a very stressful meeting or right after. Of course some of it is my body's attempt to gain weight back to reach my 'normal' weight - that is just the body attempting to maintain a stable homeostatic weight. Which could be part of it for you?
But I know for me it isn't the normal fluctuating cravings and splurges that people experience because my stopping point is so ludicrous, I eat way past enjoyment or comfort. And I am never really satisfied. I am restless and frantic. I do feel embarrassed about it, because I consider myself someone who is logical minded and forward thinking! And even more than that I feel really frustrated, because my own pathology has cost me my progress SO..MANY..TIMES.
Anyway, I am here now and trying. I would love to see how you manage your habits and feelings and overcome them, I will be learning alongside you!
Things I do that successfully distract me when I am antsy and feeling self-sabotagey:
- Make a detailed meal plan and shop for it
- Prep/cook a few batches which satisfies my need to engage with food on some level and makes me feel organised.
- Research some aspect of food for health, eg the impact of omega3 fats on longevity, or the role of gut microbiome on weight management, it makes me feel connected to my health and more motivated to make a good choice
- Imagine myself at my next milestone, really try to picture myself feeling good/looking good/fitting in something I want to wear etc.
- Have a bouillon soup with loads of chillies and pepper in it to distract me.
- Shower/ Bath / Facemask
- Organise a cupboard or shelf - so mind occupying!
Hi Hidden ,hope you don’t mind me butting in. I have just read your post and wanted to empathise. I have been binge eating for most of my adult life and am still struggling. I have been bingeing for the past 3 days, mostly on chocolate and ice cream. I am having a better day today, so far. For me, exercising helps to draw a line and make a fresh start. I am focusing on going to the gym tomorrow to complete W8 of C25K. I am thinking about carrying on with some knitting that I have abandoned over the past few months. Enjoy the rest of your day😊
Hi Hidden , still struggling I’m afraid. It’s my birthday tomorrow, when I plan to overindulge. I have been rationalising with the thought ‘oh well may as well overeat today as planning to overeat tomorrow’. Trouble is I have been doing that every day for the last week. On the positive side, I did finish WK 8 of C25K yesterday, although it was a struggle. Hope to start afresh after my birthday. How are you getting on?
Well done on week 8 that is great! It will get easier, especially as you clean up ur eating im sure! I think starting fresh after your bday sounds like a good plan! It is so derailing to start and stop, so maybe ur right to wait. I am having a (rare) good day. I really need this to be the start of a good streak!! I always feel like if I can get 3 good weeks under my belt I can get myself in stride. Problem is i usually falter well before the 3 week mark. Social engagements are a big part of that, as is stress and my own lack of momentum. Do u feel similarly about getting a good streak going?
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