Hello there. I’m new here and haveing a really hard time accepting the fact that I’m not 20 anymore. I’m 56. I’m about 20 pounds overweight and the doctor says I’m obese. Everyone on tv is skinny. Why don’t they have normal size women on the tv shows?? Menopause and other factors destroyed my body…mostly my stomach. I’m disgusted by it. I just joined the gym and after 3 visits, I’m bored. I’ve never been big on exercising. I know I have to put the work in to lose weight, but I just can’t get motivated. I also suffer from anxiety and depression, it’s pretty bad, so that doesn’t really help the situation.
Thank you all for listening to my rant. Take care
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2024 October
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Hi Rufus, you were here 4 months ago and had some replies, has anything changed since then?
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Exercise will tone your body but wont necessarily help you to lose weight. Muscle weighs heavier than fat so you could actually go up in weight. Previously you said you cooked from scratch and didn't have junk food, are you still on this path? Have you looked at portion sizes and made sure you are getting the balance of carbs, fat, and protein right for you?
I too was/am a sufferer of anxiety and depression and found that as I concentrated on eating the right things and saw my weight drop, my depression and anxiety really improved. After about a year on here I stopped having panic attacks too. I still have bad days due to health issues and the NHS operation delays, but I just have to remind myself that things happen when its the right time for them to happen, and not get stressed about it.
If looking at yourself in the mirror makes things worse then for now remove or cover them up until you are ready to look again. I don't know about you but I really didn't see myself in a mirror as other people saw me. One day I was walking past a shop and saw a reflection in a shop window and thought "of she looks good", then realised it was me lol That was quite a turning point for how I saw myself.
I hope the above helps and then you get stuck in with our pinned posts. Try the Weekly Weigh In and Daily Diary to begin with. You'll find lots of members that will have gone, or be going through similar senarios to yourself and feeling less alone always helps.
I think I need to change what I cook at home. The problem is I cook for my significant other.other and can’t afford to make two different meals. I don’t know why but I’ve had a bad sweet tooth for the last few months. That doesn’t help. I’m the one who buys or makes them so I know it’s my fault for having them in the house. I don’t work and pretty much sit idle for most of the day. With my depression I have no energy or motivation to do anything which also doesn’t help. I think my biggest problem is I eat out of boredom.
Thank you for your reply and best wishes. I really appreciate it.
Hi again, I agree it is very difficult when there is more than yourself to cook for, that's where I am lucky. Fingers crossed your sweet tooth disappears quickly for you.
I know what you mean about boredom eating. I used to do it before I lost the weight and some days over the last 14 months, while my mobility is severely limited, i'm like that too. I make sure i've got chopped up veg at the ready so that I can snack on them if I get the boredom munchies.
I lost 76kg in roughly 2 years. I've managed to more or less maintain that through waiting for a hip replacement for a year, and now waiting for a knee replacement, almost a year on the waiting list for that too. I'm currently 78kg, and am happy to hang around these numbers til I can get back on my feet again. I'm hoping i can then get toned up and will decide if I want to lose a little bit more. xx
Talk to your partner . My husband isn’t overweight but the healthy meals have helped him too . Lowered his cholesterol by almost 0.5 bringing him into an acceptable range so it’s internally too . Oh yes - that gym ! I joined classes . Regulars said see you next week and I rebooked . Address portion sizes . Go shopping with your partner, plan your basket via your menu plans . If they want extras kindly ask if they will put them out of your reach. My husband has flourished with these meals which I have flavoured with herbs , spices , tomatoes etc stopping the need for his crazy amounts of processed table sauces. It is a lot easier doing this together .
Hi I know exactly how you feel I’m 54 and about 3 stone overweight which makes me obese.I feel I’ve been on diets all my life , I also have a partner who is 6 foot and weighs about 9 and half stone and eats anything .he buys the food and like you I cook I also can’t afford to buy different foods .
However I am very active I walk the dog for an hour every day and on my feet a lot at work, I only work mornings and don’t earn a lot of money so can’t afford gym membership. I have NAFLD so try not to eat too much fat or sugar but the weight just doesn’t shift I’m also going through the menopause.
So I completely understand the annoyance of nothing working to loose weight and also feeling not really knowing what else to do .
Our Daily Diary and weekly weigh in are very good places to begin. If you join in you'll see that there's more than 1 way to lose weight. I hope to see you around
I'm in the same boat. My only advice is that i've learned to figure out the time of day I don't care to eat. I'm not really hungry in the evenings, so I try to be done eating by 5:00. I'm usually the most hungry and have cravings in the middle of the day.
Hi rufus. If you don’t enjoy the gym then don’t go, at least for now. Could you just make yourself get up and get out on a walk everyday. Start small if your not very fit but I have often found my mojo while walking and it might just help shift the gloom.You can listen to music, or just enjoy the country ( or town) sounds. All you need is comfy shoes and maybe a coat.
This time of year it’s very cold outside, and I hate the cold, so walking outside is really not an option. I’m hoping I can get motivated once it warms up.
I'm in the same boat. I'm 59, for now, and 40lbs overweight. I also have severe depression and anxiety. I just can't wrap my head around the fact that the first digit will be a " 6 "at my next birthday! I have always fluctuated in weight, I know what to do, it's just the (getting out of my depression long enough) to do it. In the past - I took action when "the pain of staying the same became greater than the (lack of) motivation to change". I think I'm Almost there (again)!! You're not alone in your struggles! Best of luck to you Rufus! 🍏🚶♀️
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