wheelchair weary,fat and fed up after years of asking for help and only offered gastric surgery(which I do not want ever!).

[Dogbasket]

Feeling miserable and not helped by weighing in at 20stones 7lbs this morning! 10 years ago I was a size 14 and 11stone. I was at the gym 5 days a week and swam a mile 3-4 times a week,I worked full time as a nurse and was always full of energy. I was kept busy by 2 teenage daughters with full social lives,I took them to concerts and festivals all over the UK and was having a ball.

Then like a bolt out of the blue my body had a massive systems failure. I had Flu which put me in hospital on a ventilator and when I woke up everything was wrong. It went from post viral fatigue to a list of diagnoses that left me in a wheelchair unable to walk,doubly incontinent, barely able to speak, constant pain from Fybromialgia and osteoporosis arthritis, Functional neurological disorders which gave me fit like symptoms where I switched off without warning anywhere and while doing anything! This meant I could no longer work or drive so I was sat at home 24/7 unable to do anything for myself and going crazy.I lost all of my friends by the end of the second year as I couldn’t socialise anymore and my family just carried on like I wasn’t there(which I wasn’t).I was on so many medications for so many conditions most of which had side effects and a lot made me gain weight.From hyperactive fitness bunny to housebound,chair bound blob in 6yrs.

Everytime I see a consultant from any speciality they say if I lost weight I’d feel better and if I ask for help I’m told the NHS don’t see people for dietary advice and the only thing they could offer is gastric surgery!

I can’t walk and have very limited arm movements,swimming and any gym activities are out for safety reasons due to the absence seizures. Can anyone suggest any wheelchair activities that would be suitable to help me lose weight or give me any advice regarding how to approach my doctors for help?

I can lose a stone easily using healthy eating and fasts but then it stops and I can gain 7lbs overnight literally. If anyone has any ideas I’ll take them gladly.

Thankyou for letting me join your group

[Grigid Moderator 4 stone]

Goodness me Dogbasket, you have been through a hard time!

I'm disappointed that your consultants are giving you only one route to weight loss.

Have you contacted your local Integrated Care Board? Details are on the NHS websites and it might be worth checking in with them to see if there are any services or support groups open to you that consultants aren't aware of.

Also I have heard of machines that can help you carry out exercises if you have limited mobility, adaptive exercise equipment, that might be worth looking into.

We aren't able to give any professional advice but I hope the above suggestions might help.

In the meantime, do stick with healthy eating. We do have groups on here that are very supportive, such as the Daily Diary. I've added the link here so you can have a look. Just join in any of the groups that interest you, you will be made most welcome.

Best wishes

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[Dogbasket 2025 March in reply to Grigid]

Thankyou for your reply and advice.I will look into them. Not giving up or giving in👍

[Grigid Moderator 4 stone in reply to Dogbasket]

👍🏼

[BridgeGirl Administrator SS Supercook 2 stone]

Hello and welcome, Dogbasket

You might find some inspiration in this blog flidfit.com/about/ - some tasty recipes, too

[Dogbasket 2025 March in reply to BridgeGirl]

Thankyou for taking time to reply. I will definitely give it a look, love recipe inspiration 👍🥰

[BridgeGirl Administrator SS Supercook 2 stone in reply to Dogbasket]

Good for you