Need help

[iluvksz]

I no what it takes...why cant i just do it😢

[Pudwood16]

I know exactly what you mean. It really is a state of mind isn't it. I wish I could find a way to bottle the willpower when I am feeling determined to use when I'm feeling weak. I think what helps is to break each day into smaller chunks, so you just face each meal with determination. When I am feeling in control I plan well and then if I am tempted, I ask myself 'what do I want more, a weight loss or a piece of cake'. It's hard though, I know that, just remember to be kind to yourself, you're only human x

[nteapea]

I am sorry you feel so sad. A massive part of this lifestyle change is getting our brain and emotions well too. Weight loss is only a part of that. Sit down and try set yourself one goal for this week maybe nothing to do with weight loss. It might be that you will do a walk every day. Don't panic if you don't complete the goal but do use the opportunity to think about why you didn't get there. Perhaps we can work out together what stopped you. There is no time limit to this it takes however long it needs to take 😀

[JacksonPollock 1 stone]

Try bite size pieces rather than doing everything in one big go tackle one thing at a time. It takes 12 weeks to make a change permenant so why not stop one thing for 12 weeks like portion control, or getting 5 a day, or regular exercise anything you want, that is how I stopped binge eating, smoking and Coca Cola before I started the diet. It has been 6 years since I last smoked, 2 nearly 3 years since I drank coke and about 20 weeks since I stopped binge eating. You don't have to space it out like I have done just 12 weeks. Good luck.

[Jojocoops]

I have been exactly the same for a few weeks now, I've cried and been horrible to myself which just makes me worse, the advice on here yesterday was brill and I feel positive, 1day at a time and being kinder to yourself may help and believe in yourself, if your like me we want an over night fix, keep posting on here and the support will Help and encourage you, sending you positive thoughts and best wishes, happy monday 🤓

[SueElr]

Love the question!

In my experience, there is a 'little voice' inside my head telling me that it is ok to eat even though I am not really hungry. this seems to override the 'sensible' part. (Recommend a book called "But I deserve this chocolate!" by Susan Albers)

However, it is clear that all is not lost. There is what is called the 80/20 rule where if you eat healthily 80% of the time that will be good enough.

There is also a bit in the brain that loves sugar, fat and salt and the food industry knows this very well. They spend millions on finding the exact 'bliss spot' in the brain using MRI scans etc This makes high tech food addictive for obvious reasons.

This is well documented and understood. (Salt, Sugar, Fat: How the Food Giants Hooked Us Jan 2014 by Michael Moss).

So it seems to me, being knowledgeable, aware and very importantly, being encouraged in the healthy direction although not an 'overnight' phenomenon, will succeed.

I also needed to ask myself if I really wanted to lose weight and wait for a second or two to see what the answer was. I do this before I want to eat something - the answer can go either way and that is ok but the stopping to answer seems to help.

[SueElr]

PS We may not achieve 80/20 straight away but it is a goal to work to.

[Itsbab]

Hi some fab advice given it really is mind in gear before the new lifestyle journey can happen.

I would cut down today and spend a little time reading posts from days or weeks ago just to gain information and tips etc there are some inspiring stories on here, write down the benefits to you for loosing weight against the problems/benefits for not doing so.

If you feel confident to start download week 1, give yourself a small goal maybe just to stick to the first week and lose 2lb etc with a nice treat planned if you reach it. New top, hair done, anything non food related.

Good luck there's one thing I keep saying to myself every day.

'You are going to do this Bev, for you and only you, because only you can do it'. After all what's the alternative?

[Faqhiavelli]

Because it is legitamately a hard thing and for most people takes a lot of practice to get right.

Forgive yourself

Plan ahead

Plan small steps

Be sympathetic to yourself

Reward yourself

Sleep plenty

Have lots of fluids

Build a routine

Forgive yourself

Be proud of yourself

Keep going

[SlimmerSue62]

I know exactly what you mean. I think that's a great idea break the day into smaller chunks. my time of craving is evening's. I am terrible I have even started sneaking to the kitchen. . . not good

[Wadestreet]

Hi there I am a newbie as of a week ago. I was thinking as you are now. And my good advice is to get yourself out there and post what you are going through and stating small goals to recovery and these great people from the forum will encourage you so that you want to fight this and become a survivor of healthy eating. So go for it. you will not be disappointed.