Failure...... :-(

"Betty, I'm a failure." I had a cigarette. I feel awful about it. I'd done so well and now I'm going to slither back down the pole to the bottom again. It was the glasses of red wine with a friend on Saturday that did it and I should have known better, but thought I was under control. I clearly wasn't. I feel disgusted with myself and deserve a damn good slap. I can't believe how idiotic I've been as I was doing so well and was so proud of myself. Back to square one, I suppose.... Night all

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Hi Moonweaver - dont be too hard on yourself, you just had a good practice run. I was never able to quit more than 24 hours before this attempt, so getting to 7 weeks is pretty awesome for a practice run. It should also stand you in good stead next time to understand the dangers a bit better. Mr Nic is one crafty bugger.

As long as you get back on the quitting trail asap...

[Maddyg]

Hi ya moonweaver, don't be too hard on your self, we have all been there if truth be told. I would say good practice run and getting to 7 weeks was Fantastic . You now know what too avoid. I guess alcohol is the biggest trigger, for many of us. I had to avoid for at least 2 months, and yes having smoking pals is hard too, all my friends smoke, so I know were your coming from. It's ine cig, and recognised the trigger, don't feel bad, you will suceed. Stay strong and start your quit ASAP before it's the slippery slope again. Hugs xx

[jillygirl Administrator Queen Bee]

Moonweaver, What I am proud of you for, is the courage you have in confessing your slip up. Not everyone would own up to that.

It takes guts and strength to own up and to quit smoking. 7 weeks is superb and I am sure you have learnt what your weakness is now. So carry on beating Mr Nic. xxxxx

[Hidden in reply to jillygirl]

Thanks everyone - I didn't want to admit my failure but glad I came on here and got such lovely support - onwards and upwards xxx

[droopyJ in reply to Hidden]

Pick yourself up, dust yourself down and let's go for trial number 2.... Get back on it quickly otherwise you end up leaving it forever..... Like me 😟

Your not a failure your a trier..... 😊🚭🚭🚭🚭🚭🍀🍀🍀🍀

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Thanks - I know how easy it is to leave it - it won't happen as I'm already back on track as I see it as an unfortunate blip in my journey and haven't touched one since it happened on Saturday So good to have this support 🚭🚭🚭 and no more 🍷🍷

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

What you were suppose to say was nope well done for getting back on track scares me the thought of getting such strong urges to smoke again which I haven't as yet thank goodness. Hopefully the urge will pass me by my last attempt was 4 wks so fingers crossed I can get to that and sail passed it

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Yep, don't I just know it now !! After a couple of 🍷🍷the strong will crumbled in the presence of my smoking friend - not her fault - she was trying to tell me Nope but I fell by the wayside, even though it was very briefly and haven't touched one since. Waking up with a nasty taste in my mouth the next day was actually really off putting

[jillygirl Administrator Queen Bee]

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Perfect!!! Thank you! 💜💕💞💝😀😀😀

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Hi no you are not back to square 1 - you had a weak moment that's all. Everyone does. Just get straight back to the no smoking. x

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Yes that's true - already back there, which is good.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Well done MW, that's the spirit. x

[RajatSmokeFree 6 MONTH WINNER]

Maybe that 1 cigarette was your reward for the amazing 7 week quit! And you are already on the right path again! Congratulations!

[Carissa28 10 MONTH WINNER]

Moonweaver, you are not a failure, this is just a step back, and now you're making a step in the right direction again, even if it is day one. you've made it through day one before, and you will make it through again, and we will all be here for you cheering you on!

I have found that I cannot drink wine still, not even 1 sip, the craving for a cig is instant. Now I can have beer or any other alcohol and there is no trigger, because for me, I loved having a smoke with a glass of wine, and only smoked when drinking wine. You know that it's still a trigger for you now, so you know how to guide yourself through the next time a situation like this may arise

you're a tough cookie, be proud that you will continue to stay quit!

[Hidden]

Thank you! I've not touched one since I slipped up on Saturday, so been a couple of days since and I'm fine - it was the wine that did it! No alcohol at all for me - I didn't drink for the 7 weeks I quit so it's obviously a massive trigger.

[Briarwood Administrator Ducky in reply to Hidden]

Well done for getting straight back on your quit moonweaver🚭👍🏼

Now you know your trigger you'll be fine, onwards and upwards lovely lady, you got this😊

[droopyJ in reply to Hidden]

Well done moonweaver maybe as well as saving your cig money you should start saving your wine money too 😊😊🍷🍷🍷

I'm delighted you get to keep your badge 💛👍

[madametobacco49]

Hey MW No big deal--just get back on the the road to quitting--It is 6 months and I havent had a glass of wine--I am afraid Id do the same thing you did--and I don't want to drink and not smoke--Maybe I will think different and be able to handle it later.. It wasn't all in vain--you taught me something and yourself too and maybe others--you have to be pretty grounded in your quit to have a drink--without going crazy for a cig or having one--Don't dilly dally on this--chalk it up and quit again--then it isn't in vain--Just a lesson xxx MmeT

[Andrew-S]

Don't worry just one slip like the others have said just get back to it and you'll be fine 😀

[glolin LONG TERM WINNER]

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[glolin LONG TERM WINNER]

I am so proud of you for getting back on track 😀😀😀😀🚭🚭🚭🚭

[monky Administrator Cake sniffer outer]

Moonweaver, firstly I would like to say THANK YOU for being so honest with us We are not here to judge you or tell you off in any way, we are here to help you

As for you sliding down that pole again to the bottom, we will see eh and as you have found out, drink and ciggs go hand in hand so please learn from it and maybe have a couple of glasses less next time until you feel more confident in yourself

I'm loving the way you've got straight back to your quit and I for one am very PROUD of you for doing that

Moonweaver, you are in early days yet, soooo, your still learning, dont be too hard on yourself, your not a failure, it was just a blip

Happy sweet dreaming huggs heading your way gal

[counslr]

Please keep trying! I felt like a cigarette all day today---and I'm alternating between the lowest dose patch and nothing. It's been 5 months of being smoke free. Considering I smoked for 29 years, I suppose I should be elated. In a way, I am: Still, I wish the cravings were done with--once and for all. They are far from over, but it does get a wee better each day.

Perhaps, they will always be there! No matter our slip ups , we must forge on and pick up where we left off. Throw the pack away, if you still have it, slap on a nicotine patch and begin "stepping down" once more.

View it as a simple slip OR a decadent evening. No worries...

[Optigirl 18 Months Winner]

Just a slip up glad you're back on track don't give up it is definitely harder to drink I have managed to be strong not sure how!

[jillygirl Administrator Queen Bee]

After your post yesterday , I spoke to the other members of the admin team. As you have done so well with your quit, and being so honest We decided to leave the quit date as it is. I am sure you wont let us or yourself down again.

Enjoy being smokefree. xx

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Thank you so much!!! I don't deserve that, I'm sure, but it has made me feel a lot better, knowing that I haven't quite hit the ground again (although I did rather go bump, then bounced back up quickly!). Thank you for being so supportive as a group, not only to me, but to all the others. It means so much as we go on our journeys xx

[Hidden]

NEVER a failure😀 Just means you had a bit of a setback but today's a new day☀️ Keep your 7 weeks.... My Nic is determined to get us all to light up😡 Enjoy being smokefree today ❤️👍🏻

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This group is so good for morale, amongst other things! Fantastic support since my confession - I feel a lot less like beating myself up now, and see it as a temporary blip, to learn from but not to punish. Thanks to everyone for being there and helping me feel better about my moment of weakness - it is much appreciated!

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

They're an awesome bunch.... I've wanted to light up sooo many times and when I have a drink, it's the hardest.... Total trigger.... These fine people on site are here for us everyday❤️👍🏻 Addiction is cunning and baffling😡