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Leelee331 YEAR WINNER
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I have friends coming over tonight to play cards. A few of them smoke. How am I going to get through this night? Any encouraging words would be greatly appreciated. I will be drinking a few.😳

10 days, 18hrs, 40min smoke free

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Andrew-S

Hi lee I love ur rolling timer. I got an app that does that AND you can text updates to ur friends whenever u want. After a while it really irritates them but they still feel obliged to send suitably encouraging and enthusiastic replies. And that is how u teach them a lesson for smoking when ur not.

I have had people round smoking drinking etc. Smoking right in front of me. For some people alcohol is a trigger as it lowers ur inhibitions so beware of that.

I suppose the way I thought of it was if they choose to smoke it's their business what has it got to do with u and ur choice not to smoke.

For me it doesn't bother me if other people smoke in front of me it makes no difference and if u cave and have one u just have to start all this again.

Hope u stay strong πŸ˜„πŸ‘€

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madametobacco49

Don't try to be a hero and gut it out--Its your domain--Be honest about what you are trying to do--It wont hurt them to go outside-smokers are used to that--Don't wilt--This is a tough one--You can also excuse yourself if it gets to be to much--although Id do the first one-Just call this a huge hurdle#1--and when you get thru it you will be a little stronger and know how to handle this stuff better too--This is about you--trying to break a tough addiction..... Good Luck--love to know how you do and how you handled it xxxx MadameT

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itnotme9 MONTH WINNER

I would let my friends know I don't smoke anymore and they can not smoke in my house, they can be told in such a way that won't offend them, and hey tell them to join you in not smoking, my husband and I quit almost 3 weeks ago, my brothers stops by watching the football game, I just explained that from no on no smoking in our home it makes no sense for us to stop smoking and let others keep smoking, I trying to have a fresh clean start to 2016, good luck!! you are a great example to them!! you can drink and not smoke, everyone told me to give up coffee it has been my comfort for not smoking when you start thinking of smoking just say it won't last long and I have come to far to turn around!!!!!!

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jaglan22 Months Winner

It's gonna be a tricky one Lee! I didn't touch alcohol for six months for fear of giving in to the "oh only when I have a drink" trick of mr Nic!!!! I'd be an alcoholic !!!!!!!! Just remember at how chuffed you will be as you get rid of the fag smell in the morning which will have lingered in the air from yr friends. You could ask them to smoke outside??? The cold weather might make them abstain for a few hours? Either way Lee!! DONT you'll be gutted!!

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shantimar

Hey Lee

My hubby still smokes, but having him still smoking made me more determined not to πŸ™‚

I personally think the quicker you jump into these situations the better. It gets them over with and makes you stronger, but again that's just me.

You can do this and think how great you'll feel when you do πŸ‘πŸ‘

Xx

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BriarwoodAdministratorLONG TERM WINNER

Hi Lee, when i have friends round who smoke I ask them not to smoke in the house and they'll be happy to help I'm sure. When they come back in you'll be able to smell how bad they stink and this will put you off joining them😩 You can do it and although it's a big test, take time out for a bathroom trip and look in the mirror and say I don't smoke, I'm a non smoker yeah🚭🚭😊 (this is best done in a quiet voice to yourself)πŸ˜‚

Good luck and enjoy your evening, I know ya can do thisπŸ€

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jaglan22 Months Winner in reply to Briarwood

That made me giggle!!! I've an autistic son who I have to keep away from anything reflective or he bursts into a conversation about his day to himself!!!

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BriarwoodAdministratorLONG TERM WINNER in reply to jaglan

Must admit I have a slight tendancy to think out loud too😩embarrassing when caught but I use the cat as an excuse so now I'll probably have to bring the cat shoppingπŸ˜±πŸ˜‚

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jaglan22 Months Winner

hey borrow my son....FREE

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BriarwoodAdministratorLONG TERM WINNER in reply to jaglan

Ha ha ha now I'm laughing and have to say is that a new 7 month badge I see shining out????

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Andrew-S in reply to jaglan

7 month badge winner... Kept that quiet congratulations πŸ˜€πŸ‘€

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jaglan22 Months Winner

Oh golly!!! Why thank you ..... You NOTICED!!!!! (Coy face) YES IT IIIIIIIIISSSSSSS THE best badge I ever did get in my WHOLE LIFE!!! But don't change the subject!!! When are you getting my son FREE!! X I think having an outreach of you guys on here to help bolster my depressive thoughts and to talk sense and understanding at times when lives were at risk was an absolute GODSEND and I thank you for that πŸ‘πŸ»πŸŽˆπŸŽ‰πŸ˜€πŸŒΉ still have "moments" but the postman has started delivering our mail again πŸ˜±πŸ˜‰ say no more!! Xx

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BriarwoodAdministratorLONG TERM WINNER in reply to jaglan

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MASSIVE CONGRATULATIONS Jaglan, I'm soo delighted for ya Hun coz I know it hasnt been easy but you've done brilliantly πŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌ

And don't ever lose that wonderful sense of humourπŸŽˆπŸŽ‰πŸŽŠπŸ’πŸΎπŸΎπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ˜Š

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BriarwoodAdministratorLONG TERM WINNER in reply to jaglan

P.S. I'll be round for your lovely Son in the morning, thanks for the kind offer😘😘

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jaglan22 Months Winner

Aww shucks!! Xxx 😳

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Leelee331 YEAR WINNER

I didn't smoke and I made everyone that did go out in the cold to smoke. I didn't even get tempted. It was awesome!! I hate the cold!

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monkyAdministrator35 Months Winner in reply to Leelee33

A great big YIPPYYYYYYY DIPPYYYYYYY DOOOOOOO to ya gal :) :) and like you say, your just one flippin AWESOME Ladyyyyyy :) :)

You did ever so well and am dead PROUD of ya :) :) and yeah, you make the smokers go outside in the cold and wet eh :) :)

Am just loooooooving it Lee :) :) :)

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Andrew-S in reply to monky

Well done leelee another hurdle overcome πŸ˜‚πŸ˜Ž

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majestictime

Lay your cards on the table so to speak,and tell them straight out if they come over they will have to go outside to take smoke breaks.

If they really are your friends,that shouldn't be a problem,but tell them in advance,it's your house!

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