not doing well...

[nsd_user663_11343]

Hello,

I introduced myself on the reasons to quit board yesterday and was feeling pretty upbeat at the time.

Well, from the moment I woke up this morning, I have been a nightmare, was late for work because of stupid traffic, when I got here I was locked out because they've changed the door code. Was bombarded as soon as I did manage to get through the door and promptly went to the loo and burst into tears.

I then had a ciggie :(

I feel so ashamed - it's only my second day and I feel like I've already given up giving up.

I'm leaving half-day today to try again, I don't think I can deal with monday-morning stress this soon.

Any ideas or advice as to how I can better prepare myself for work tomorrow? I really do want to quit and ideally I would take this whole week off work to get over the initial first few days but I can't do that becuase I have a full diary (except for this p.m which is why I'm going home)

I think that maybe I didn't properly prepare myself for the quit, I just thought "I'm going to do it" bought patches and didn't think ahead about how to cope with situations that stress me out. This afternoon I'm going to do some proper planning and start at day one again tomorrow, seeing as though I lapsed just now.

Want to hear something ironic?

I'm a drugs worker and spe******e in recovery. I deliver training on relapse prevention for christ sake! Clearly, I can't practice what I preach!

[nsd_user663_9175]

Hi Jen,

In all honesty I can't give you any advice on how to overcome stressful situations without smoking as we all handle things differently. You have to take it a day (or hour or sometimes even a minute!) at a time, and eventually the feelings will pass and you will calm down without needing to smoke, although it's not easy. I am at 11 weeks now and almost caved on Saturday - ended up crying like a baby because I wanted to smoke so much:mad:

Don't keep cigarettes around - in the early days especially it's much too easy to give in and smoke because you 'can't handle it' Keep reading as much about smoking and the dangers as you can (this stopped me from caving Saturday) there are some great links on people's signature's on here. Maybe get some Kalms stablets or Rescue Remedy if you suffer from stress - Kalms were a godsend to me in the first few weeks. And keep posting, it does get better eventually (so I've been told:D)

[nsd_user663_5028]

Hello,

I introduced myself on the reasons to quit board yesterday and was feeling pretty upbeat at the time.

Well, from the moment I woke up this morning, I have been a nightmare, was late for work because of stupid traffic, when I got here I was locked out because they've changed the door code. Was bombarded as soon as I did manage to get through the door and promptly went to the loo and burst into tears.

I then had a ciggie :(

I feel so ashamed - it's only my second day and I feel like I've already given up giving up.

I'm leaving half-day today to try again, I don't think I can deal with monday-morning stress this soon.

Any ideas or advice as to how I can better prepare myself for work tomorrow? I really do want to quit and ideally I would take this whole week off work to get over the initial first few days but I can't do that becuase I have a full diary (except for this p.m which is why I'm going home)

I think that maybe I didn't properly prepare myself for the quit, I just thought "I'm going to do it" bought patches and didn't think ahead about how to cope with situations that stress me out. This afternoon I'm going to do some proper planning and start at day one again tomorrow, seeing as though I lapsed just now.

Want to hear something ironic?

I'm a drugs worker and spe******e in recovery. I deliver training on relapse prevention for christ sake! Clearly, I can't practice what I preach!

Hi sunshine_jen

Sorry about your little slip ...but like you probably say to the people you advise everyday ... At least you have recognised you want to give up ok and thats a start, not re trying is a failure the fact that you know it is so bad for you and want to retry is a step forward in the right direction it will help you become stronger next time you try to rid this drug out of your body.... ok you have slipped no problem, pick yourself up dust yourself down and get back on track dont be too hard on yourself just relax you know you are doing the right thing ... People on here are brilliant they have signatures with some great links have a read it will help you when you come across symptoms cravings aniexty everything ...good luck Jen you can do this ...remember the most important thing these things that happened this morning would have still happened with a fag in your hand.

[nsd_user663_8676]

Hi Jen

I agree with Vicstar - we all have our own ways of dealing with stress. Removing temptation is a must. If it requires an effort to get them, then you are less likely to give in. By the time I had thought about going out to buy some, it had passed. I also found that taking 10 deep slow breaths helped when I craved - it was like smoking but without the ciggie.

Stay strong and keep posting

[nsd_user663_11343]

Thanks for your replies, I'm treating today as a blip and still pressing forward. I found yesterday easier, probably because I wasn't working and had the support of hubby, plus it was a stress free day doing nice things in the sunshine.

Now I've come home from work, I'm about to go out and keep myself busy then this evening will be preparing my plan of attack so from now on quitting will go as smoothly as possible.

Chin up and marching onwards!

[nsd_user663_4522]

Keep marching onwards definately, like people have mentioned some handle stress easier than others. I gave up smoking in december 09 5 weeks after my father died and my marriage had broke up and jesus was I stressed. Addiction bugs us with excuses to give in to temptation, you need the will power and the strength to get through it. I wont lie it is hard use the forum and peoples experiences to help you through it and remember never stop stopping..