am I a bad person?

[OCDlivrecovery]

Hello, we were outside talking with tony and Antonio mentioned his sister I called her by dove instead of her previous name(she is lesbian) because that is what she calls herself. I do not like his sister and I do not care for her beliefs because I did grow up in the religious household I did. I can understand that it has nothing to do with me but the then that I just don't care. I wasn't apologetic and I said it was unread for me to remember when to and not call her by her different name. Anyways he flipped out because he said I'm homophobic and he's not dealing with it and started to laugh hysterically at me when I said I wasn't going to listen to a lecture from someone that is younger than me. I understand I'm somewhat in the wrong but I'm not willing to change EVERYTHING I feel, if I feel it's wrong I don't need a lesson to "train it out of me". I am very aware of how much I think so it's not like my opinion is just made up out of republican bullshit views.  I wasn't just explaining how I don't understand all of it and I'm sorry for slipping up but everything I said just made it worse and worse. He said he doesn't want to be with me if I'm gonna be a homophobic asshole. He said it's the same things for Jonah it's his sibling, and I understand that but the favors they require are different and because I didn't grow up with anyone not straight around me, I'm not well versed. I could be more open minded, I just am uncomfortable with the way he is so upset. 

[Natureloverpeace]

Calling someone by their preferred name and pronouns is respectful.

[SCC1 in reply to Natureloverpeace]

Exactly!

[PaperTigers]

No, you're not a bad person for simply disagreeing with someone's choices on gender/sexuality. Hating them is a different story. The words "bigot" and "homophobe" are used so liberally to apply to anyone who does not affirm someone's "identity" but I detect no animosity in your post, more of a general confusion and honest request for guidance. You honestly didn't mean any harm. I don't think you were being malicious if I'm understanding your post.

[OCDlivrecovery in reply to PaperTigers]

thank you so much for understanding where I am coming from I truly would never come from a malicious place and I absolutely love everyone. I was just incredibly confused and wasn’t trying to come off discriminatory… but he made me feel so bad even though I know I have no hate in my heart towards anyone. Sometimes I make mistakes and I felt like I was crucified for this one and the ocd really flared up and I feel horrible ab it now

[PaperTigers in reply to OCDlivrecovery]

Please try not to beat yourself up, you know you have no malice in your heart. People are seriously on edge about this stuff in society and there's a weird political climate that has only driven a wedge between people. They would have reacted the same way if it had been anyone else.

[Jones67]

no you are not a bad person. OCD is a curse😭😭😭

[OCDlivrecovery in reply to Jones67]

thank you, it truly is ❤️🥲