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Due to therapy and my reading on OCD, one thing that I've realized that I'm struggling with is being kind to myself and having some self-compassion. If I think about some of the situations that I've been in, I would have compassion for someone else, but I just beat myself up about the situation when it applies to myself. I ran across this blog post by Shala Nicely recently:

shalanicely.com/recovery-fr...

She knows what it is like living with OCD and how insidious and demeaning the condition can be. It beats us down, and it is no wonder that we struggle with self-compassion.

Does anyone have any good resources to offer on the topic of self-compassion or a good way to try to start being kinder to ourselves?

If people are willing, what did you score in the online assessment that she links to? I'll post my own scores later when I have a little more time. Here's the link to the self-compassion assessment:

self-compassion.org/test-ho...

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OK, that was actually really fast to go through the assessment:

Self-Kindness: 1.00

Self-Judgment: 4.80

Common Humanity: 1.00

Isolation: 4.75

Mindfulness: 1.25

Over-Identification: 4.50

Overall score: 1.20

I'm curious to see how other people score.

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Interesting exercise. It made me take a good inventory of my feelings toward myself.

Self-Kindness: 3.20

Self-Judgment: 3.40

Common Humanity: 5.00

Isolation: 1.75

Mindfulness: 3.75

Over-Identification: 2.75

Overall score: 3.68

Hi Selesnya - You seem like you are doing so much better now than you were a couple of months ago. Thank you for your contributions here.

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I have been doing somewhat better. Part of that is choosing what to focus on. I've been trying to focus on what I can control and not the things that I feel are going wrong. I've been posting in ways that are helpful and not focusing on what is going wrong with my OCD. Still certainly a struggle, but I'm doing what I can and trying to focus on my ERP and trusting the process.

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Thank you for this! I'll be checking it out!

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Self kindness 1.80

Self judgement 4.40

Common humanity 1.75

Isolation 3.85

Mindfulness 2.0

Over identification 4.75

Over all 1.86

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Kimberley Quinlan has some podcasts on self-compassion.

Here is one:

kimberleyquinlan.libsyn.com...

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Thanks. I'll have to find something a bit more detailed on how to actually make some changes, but that was a good inspiration.

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