Hi all,I am 24 years old and am very sober.I dont drink nor i smoke or do drugs.

[bil12]

But i tends to overanalyze things and this has got my life become miserable.I dont have any gf and even if i had they leave me.I dont understand my problem,people who love me i end up taking them foregranted and the people whom i loves they takes me foregranted.When i say i love,i mean real love..as in feeling their pain and everything on a spiritual level.Sometimes,i just dont know how to move ahead in life.My professional life is thriving but my personal life sucks.I cant get along with new people and cant trust them.Infact i finds it hard to trust anyone.Due to this i dont have any meaningfuk relationship and nor do i have real friends.I cant socialise and mix with people cos i am so self consciuos.I always fall in love with wrong people as in on internet or with someone i have never met and starts obsessing.I just dont know how to move ahead.I wish i could live a happy life but i dont know how to?

[sonnetsifter]

Hi there,

I joined the forum recently too and it's helped me already. I have similar feelings of not being able to trust anyone and have spent most of my life being suspicious and paranoid about other people. As a result I see I have cut myself off from people and the possibility of making new friends and relationships. I'm having a hard time at the moment, but in the past I took a mindfulness course and this really helped me to see myself and others in a more realistic and positive way. I would strongly recommend you to seek out a mindfulness course if you are able to.

You are not alone in feeling this way. I'm not belittling how you feel, it can be hard to see that others may feel the same as you when you're in a dark place yourself, but people will and can empathise and understand you. Have you thought about joining any social clubs? Night classes? Exploring your interests with like-minded people? This may help.

I hope this small offering of advice helps you.

Take care

[bil12 in reply to sonnetsifter]

Thanks..it was definitely useful.Mindfulness course,is that all about some literature to read or something els.if u have something like that i wud like to see and then take a full fledged course.In the past,i too have taken a counselling kinda thing and it was quite useful too but now it seems too difficult to be happy.

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Hi Bill

Have you been to your Doctor & told them how you feel & behave.

The can give you medication which will help you on the inside & it will maybe give you the strength to start trusting people.

I feel you are maybe trying too hard for a relationship. Maybe you come across to the people you fall in love with as too needy?

Talk to you Doctor & explain exactly how you feel. He/she will point you in the right direction with medication & the proper kind of councilling.

I wish you well. You have got to want to help yourself.

Jackie

[showmethelight]

If it helps I feel i am in the exact same boat you are. Although I realise you posted this 2 years ago, so I hope for your sake you are in a good place now. This is my first day on this website. I am a complete mess. I just hope I can get to a good place again one of these days, hopefully where you are now. Take Care