SO I am not supposed to be one here still but..... I don't care.

[teen_anxiety]

Hey just thought I'd update y'all and first things first I found out I am not supposed to be on this site still like I am not allowed or something but then again she has done nothing to prevent me sooo, I am still here. I think it has to do with the fact that everyone is anonymous. Second, the reason that my mom does not like therapists is that she does not think they can help but only really tell you what you want to know. She does not like them or the idea of me getting a diagnosis, though she says she is fine if I want to do she just does not agree. So I have not and probably will not anytime soon. Also, she thinks this diagnosis can have a negative effect when I try to get a job or other things later in life. Especially if I were to be diagnosed officially with ADHD (counselors at school and my uncle already say I have it I just not had an official diagnosis. Which I guess I do not need, but it is helpful to know. So now I am going to be doing a group at Clark where they teach you how to do well in school with ADHD, except it's not till fall quarter so I am going to have to figure it out on my own till then.) third I have been doing eh lately and I WANT A FRIEND THAT GOES TO MY SCHOOL AND A GIRLFRIEND THAT I AM CLOSE TO AND I TRUST AND A RELATIONSHIP. I know I wrote a whole post a while back about how you do not need a boyfriend but I am 17 and just getting a little antsy because I have not really had anyone that I like back like me since middle school (sorry to those who have liked me since then) also the only people I hang out with at school are my freshy sisters' friends. sorry about the rant but I have more where that came from and just needed to let some go (ALSO I DO NOT THINK I AM UGLY I JUST WANT TO FEEL MORE CONFIDENT AND PRETTY)

[FriendlyDude]

It appears that you have a really strong desire for those things, and that’s a normal response. Just be careful not to rush into relationships without any forethought, you could end up in situations you’d rather not be in. There’s nothing wrong with getting things going fast or even slow, it’s more about making sure they’re a good person and all that. And that goes for any kind of relationship or friendship. You’ve mentioned before that you keep getting into toxic friendships, so that should serve as an additional call to caution.

Sometimes our perception of reality is flawed and needs checking. As I’m sure you know, people can be quite devious. I wouldn’t want you to get hurt or get into any serious trouble. People can also be amazing though. Just please be careful, follow your heart, and do so with patience and caution. Don’t lose sight of what you value in a rush of emotion. It happens, trust me. Emotions are a powerful influencer, they can lead you to amazing things, but they can also push you to do things you would never have anticipated, and lead you to make decisions you deeply regret. That’s why I’m advising you to have caution when it comes to relationships.

Remember that there’s a time for everything. I’m sure your time will come The best things are often not what we force to happen, but what we patiently and consistently work towards each day. It’s about progression. We don’t always get to choose when or how things happen, but we can do our best and keep trying.

I hope this helps, and I was just sharing my thoughts. If I offended or upset you in any way, it wasn’t my intention, and I’m sorry. Have a great day

[teen_anxiety in reply to FriendlyDude]

no, you good and I agree with not rushing and waiting till I trust the person that's why I have few friends and no relationship. 😏😋

[Hidden in reply to teen_anxiety]

If you hurry or rush friendships and relationships we all make errors as we miss the most important features and temprement of the person. The most important and wonderful parts of new relationships is getting to know someone and see how they react with others. Remember relationships are best when we take our time.

I was seventeen, like you when I first met someone I got on with, I like you was in a hurry because all my friends were older than me and they were more advanced down the pathway of their lives. So it became awkward to keep up with their activities and expectations, in fact I was more a child who had to grow up. Early relationships need a great deal of understanding between partners we are learning about eachother.

Try not to rush you will meet someone you will understand and get on with, however remember it can take time to find the right person and we all go through the distress when relationships fail, if these feelings are not understood we make errors in finding someone who is that right persom

Do not rush, enjoy your youth and plan the pathways you wish to follow.

You will find the right person to walk down that pathway of Life

BOB

[completely-zero654 in reply to Hidden]

Dearest BOB, every single word you have written is so very true.

Bless you xxxx

[completely-zero654]

Dear teen_anxiety, please, please try and take BOB's wise words into consideration as he is a good and honest person, you will never find anyone as honest and truthful.

I hope that when the time comes you will be so very, very happy xxxx