Often it's the quiet killer

[teen_anxiety]

Just a heads up I am not thinking of committing suicide or anything like that, this was a metaphor I thought of when trying to decide how to word what has been going on in my life. To me, it means that even though someone might make it more obvious that they are trying to tease you, bully you or trigger you in some way, it is the one that does this in the shadows and in "silence" so to speak that can be more harmful and cut deeper than the loud and upfront "killer". This is in part because when they are more open about it more people realize what is going on and will be there to support you, but also if someone is doing something like this in the shadows they are more likely to deny it and try to make you seem like you are over-exaggerating or being stupid even. While someone like this may have originally been trying to get attention or was harmed, bullied, or pushed too far by someone else it does not mean that you do not have the right to ignore them or stand up for yourself. Sure it might be hard but someday it will make your life better. Am I able to follow all my own advice no, of course not? I am still struggling to stand up for myself because if I do I often am made to seem over the top or just dramatic. The last and biggest problem with people like this is they know what they are doing perhaps more than those who are upfront and that is more dangerous than someone who is oblivious to what they are doing. I want to backtrack and touch on something I mentioned because as I think about it I realize it can seem rude or harmful itself. what I am referring to here is when I mentioned that some people do this to get attention but that it is still ok to ignore them. What I mean here is that yes they want attention but the attention will end up being negative attention that will end up backfiring and causing you more harm so the best thing to do is to ignore them in the first place. Like I said before this can all be hard to do and even I mess up and end up getting involved but these are things that I attempt to do and things that I have learned to work from my experiences when I am able to do them. Also to update you on what's been going on in my life I have been doing swimming for my school, my birthday is coming up I am finishing my first week back at Clark, and because I made a rule to only text once a week and my mom holds me to it like she made It I have struggled to check in on my friends and be the good friends many of them need. I am the kind of person that seems to attract people with struggles that like to lean on me for support but lately, I have not been good at giving the support they need.

[jakenonbirany]

i have not been in the best place lately because my bestie died and i'm struggling very bad and i have done self harm for 2 years now and im looking for help

[teen_anxiety in reply to jakenonbirany]

I am sorry, I feel your pain because I also lost a friend recently. It messes with your feelings But they are both in a new place with people that love them and are watching over you cheering you on through life. Your friend now sees your struggles and is in heaven (if you believe that I do) trying to help you in the little ways they can look for the little things they may be someone from above trying to help you push through. PM me if you want to chat I am willing to try and help or at least be there for you

[Josie-Anne in reply to jakenonbirany]

Jakemonbirany,

Hi Jake I’ve ready your story and I feel for you, I lost my best friend, she was blind and had a blind dog 🐕 fern who went before her so she never really got over that, your friend hasn’t gone he’s by your side, have you noticed lights flickering or things go missing, he can see your pain but wouldn’t want you to harm yourself, you have to ask yourself‘ would you do it if he was still here’? Please talk to someone, my niece self harms because she gets angry so now she has a person she can talk to through her local mental health team, do something new that you know your friend would be proud, there are free counselling on the internet, I know you used to share a lot and both playing trick on each other and I know because I’m a medium. If you need to talk, get things off your chest please because the longer they stay there they build up and it’s harder to shift them. If you want healing I can send absent healing which means I give you healing but don’t have to be there to administer it, please take care, and smile 😊 your friend wouldn’t want you to be sad, can you do something to honour his name?

[Josie-Anne]

Hi there,

I’ve read your post and what you have said I totally agree with, a lot of young suicides have been through cyber bullying, and I know it’s hard not to listen and let it sink in what they are saying especially if you feel sensitive or unhappy with your body, situations your in etc, but please share these with grown up people like your family, teachers and relatives, and most of all ignore what they are saying because they just want a response from you, and the best way found is delete it without reading it and SMILE because there’s nothing they can do about it, the more you smile at the perpetrators and delete their texts they will come to realise they aren’t getting to you, there is mental health for teens for free on the internet and you can download a free app called calm or even mindset with has calming music, sleep music and stories and meditations which will definitely help. You have a lot of inner strength and to use it to help people with the same problems I applaud you, keep up the good work, you can always text me if you need to take I’ve got you 🤗