I have very recently realised - it has dawned on me - that over my lifetime, I have been bullied, and even abused, a fair amount. By my mother - I now realise she was jealous of me, and was carrying a lot of guilt all her adult life (a very long story). By my father - who had OCD, was a very anxious man who didn't talk much, and was stressed out by his job. By work colleagues - in most of my jobs (and I've had a fair few). By my own son. Certainly by two ex husbands. By a variety of neighbours. Even by an IT guy who had come to mend my computer. And many others along the long and winding path of my life.
I had not realised it when it happened, or I just tried to shrug it off and get on with my life. I have now realised, at age 66, that some of the other people you have to cross paths with, have their own "agenda".
I certainly do acknowledge that there are many extremely lovely people who are kind, caring & generous.
But there is a minority of people who have bad traits. They could be jealous of you for some reason (your job, house, family, car, personality etc etc). They themselves could have an undiagnosed personality disorder and have to take aim at another person to make themselves feel good. You may have unintentionally upset someone, but that other person is incapable of discussing it in a rational manner to clear the air, and in turn behaves in a bullying and abusive manner towards you.
Yes - the world is a weird place to inhabit. I now feel like I'm constantly dodging "bullets" to keep myself safe and not go insane again.
Hopefully anyone reading this on this forum, will take time to stop and think back through their lives, thinking hard to recall all the abuse and bullying they have received over their lifetime. It is most likely to have been filed away in your sub conscious, so that you could simply get on with your life without worrying about that nasty person; or it was too painful to keep in your consciousness.
What effect did that bullying and abuse have on your mind, your emotions, and eventually your health? Our minds and bodies can only take so much before we crack, no matter how strong we think we are.