Fear of losing loved ones!

[Chocoholic_18_x]

I’m almost 18 and I’m starting to become absolutely terrified of growing up. All the responsibilities I have, moving away from home (even though I don’t want to just yet)... but one I’m absolutely terrified of is losing my parents! I’m so close to them but I’m so scared of losing them, they are the people I’m closest to. As cringey as it may sound, my parents have been my best friends and still are my best friends. Though I have my handful of friends I do things with, my parents are always there for me when I don’t have any friends. I love my mum and dad so much! And I know that we all have to die at some point, it’s a part of life, but I just feel there would be no point in going on without them, life would never be the same! But I don’t want to be worrying about this, especially since they are both perfectly healthy and I’m only 17 and I shouldn’t be worrying about this, it just makes me so depressed and sad all the time. What should I do?

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O dear !

How old are your Parents, If I was your Parents it would concern me that you are worried they may pop their clogs.

I am unlike you, fair enough my Father was brow beaten by my two Sisters and my Mother, the three of them were really horrible, My father died at 85 and my Mother was 92. I am envious of your love for family.

Please live for the day with your parents they should be your best friends and I suppose they are not really wanting you to leave until you feel you are ready.

I used to feel the same way with my Surrogate family and when they both had died I did not really understand fully how I missed them as my proper family was not in any way loving towards me I was the Black sheep and still am with regards my Siblings.

We all cannot say when we or any family will hit the dust so you really need to put your fears to the back of your thoughts and expectations, they love you and that is all you need to know, be happy and live your life on the understanding life is not for ever or when any of us will die. Enjoy your time you are still very young although in the UK you would be classed as an Adult

BOB

[Ashh3]

Hi there ! I’m 33 and feel the same. As I have gotten older my parents have become the closest friends that I have. I have also been having depressed thoughts often thinking of covid and them getting older. I try very hard to practice mindfulness and staying in the moment and making the best memories so I can look back and feel like I made the most of the time I have with them. I hope this is helpful but I’m here to chat ! ❤️