Anyone with any answers or help ?????

[gooneyeile]

Absolutely buckled with depression. My life is in a mess, my love of life is gone. Don't care about anything or anyone any more. Help is so slow coming. Been fobbed off. Why don't even my parents or family notice ? Its so so hard do anything. I just want the pain to stop.

[Hidden]

Hello gooney

Do you have any idea what has brought on your Depression ?

First thing I would advise is that you make an appointment with your GP, He will decide the best way forward for you

Who has fobbed you of ?

How can I help

BOB

[gooneyeile in reply to Hidden]

Hi Bob.

Sadly, a rear end accident 3 years ago has turned my life upside down. I ask why me and what was the f****r doing that didn't notice I was stopped in traffic .

I have seen my GP and put on medication, told cant get counselling as its a legal matter , as the counsellor i was seeing wouldn't treat me. Work and people around me obviously cannot see my pain and struggle and when I gently put it at them, they look at me like I have 10 heads. That's why I feel fobbed off. Thanks Bob.

[Hidden in reply to gooneyeile]

Hello Gooney

Could you go private for your CBT ?

If your accident was caused by someone else, you need to talk to your Insurance provider as they need to know how much damage has been done not only to your car also to You. Emergency treatment after an accident used to have to be paid for

Was there any damage done to the other driver.

When I had a car accident I had to have private treatment when it was the other drivers fault as it was part of your claim. I do not know what the situation is now, you need to be legally advised.

You really need to talk this out in some way, family cannot become involved if they do not know you need support.

Medicine and treatments still need to be treated,

Did you have insurance ??

We are always here to give support

BOB

[hamble99b]

please call the samaritans and talk to them, do not be alone.

samaritans.org/

Samaritans’ free helpline number is 116 123. Calls to this helpline number do not appear on phone bills.

come on here and talk to us.

It can be quiet at times, but we do care.

there are very supportive people here.

regards,

hamble.

( I have posted same reply to another member too. It is just as heartfelt. I have problems with my hands atm)

[gooneyeile in reply to hamble99b]

Thank You, I may do that but I find it hard reach out to anyone at the moment. Please god i will. Best wishes to you !!

[Hidden]

Because family and friends aren't mind readers? I am not trying to be funny here but I know from own experience that usually you have to talk to family and friends and not just expect them to pick it up. Don't forget everyone has their own life and problems and most people, even those closest to you, are often concerned more with their own lives.

Have you talked to them? Told them how you are feeling? They might not fully understand as often only those who have suffered from depression can, but at least you will have given it a try. Communicate with the ones you love and give them the chance to help you first instead of being annoyed they haven't realised.

How have you been fobbed off? Have you seen the doctor? Are you on any meds and/or counselling? x

[gooneyeile in reply to Hidden]

Hi,

I understand what you are saying, maybe I do need mention it, but my parents are old fashioned and my dad once said, depression is a load of made up rubbish. What do I say to someone who thinks that way ? Told my brother but may as well have told the cattle on our farm.

I won't say I have been fobbed off, but the accident(rear end)is a legal matter so my doctor can't go certain routes, hands tied in case of upsetting the trial. I need counselling mainly, which I need in spades. I'm a wee bit better today but Jesus, I can't live my life, wondering if I'm going to hit a day like yesterday again .Thank You

[Findingme in reply to gooneyeile]

Well at least the cows will not put you down if you talk to them.

The thing I have found is that if you know that the person you tell already has the mindset that you are complaining, or that you are imagining things, you will often get the answer you expect, not the one you want. You could persevere with them, but who knows where it might lead. Perhaps if a person does not agree with your view on depression, try to discuss your issues in a less emotive way, or try someone else.

[Hidden in reply to gooneyeile]

You are welcome. I do get that and understand where you are coming from. My parents are both gone now but I did try telling my 3 sisters. One looked embarrassed and said nothing, one started talking about all her ailments which of course are much worse than mine, and the other one said sarcasticly 'What have you got to be depressed about'? Doh.

Often our nearest and dearest don't get it but we do here and you have us now. Just a thought but wouldn't counselling at this stage strengthen your case? Or is it out for the same reason?

I hope you get it sorted anyway and can then move on with your life. Don't forget you are under a lot of strain and pressure at the moment but you won't always be. Let us know how you get on please. x

[AD56]

Hi sorry you are experiencing this. Me too. Is just so hard to pick yourself up. My goal in life just now is just to stop sleeping and keep my home tidy - my sole goal and yet I can't get that together - not now and I feel like probably never. I know how awful you must feel. I have another psychiatric appointment this month so I hope that might help - if I can manage to keep the appointment which has also seemed impossible for me to get together. Anyway I hope you can manage to get to the doctors and get some help x

[gooneyeile in reply to AD56]

Thank You and sorry to hear you are going through the same. I completely agree about the get out of bed situation, and the keeping appointments which i sometimes make and then cancel. Please god, we will both and along with all suffers, get better really soon. Send on a hug.

[Hidden in reply to AD56]

Oh Ad56 they are totally my aims at the moment too! My midden of a flat is seriously interfering with my life... If you find a way let me know please. x

[olgamarie]

Gooneyeile,

First of all commend yourself for reaching out. There are a lot of people who care and advice you can receive, a lot on these forums. You have to make an appointment with a Dr. for medication for depression. Many people use these pills, as do I. If you could find a support group, that would be great. Consult your mental health facility and ask them if they know of any or your doctor should. It has been a life saver for me during difficult times. I also have found new friends in this group.

Often time friends or family members are uncomfortable with depression, don't understand it and do not know what to say or do. Also, you may not be giving them any signals that you are suffering. You may want to walk up to friends/ family and just say, hey I having a rough time and I really would like your support.

I hope some of these hints help you. Often, there are stigmas about mental illness/depression and people are uncomfortable discussing it. Fortunately for people like us, it is now starting to be spoken about and publicly written.

Please do not hesitate finding treatment for the way you feel. You are only one among millions who suffer. And there is help. You have to seek it and know that it is okay.

[gooneyeile in reply to olgamarie]

Thanks for your reply. I understand all you are saying, but I have been to all the doctor's , on medication, but I was involved in an accident, rear ended, and its now become a legal matter, so cannot do certain things as the doctors hands are tied. I even find it hard write stuff, am so wound up and get aggitated easily. I would seriously love to go to a support group so please god, it will happen down the line. There are stigma's about mental health and its time it stopped. It feels sometimes that we are lepper's or untouchable's . Thanks again.

[raine101]

you used to love life, you can get back there. 80% of people do with treatment. Help is slow coming is normal unfortunately.

[gooneyeile in reply to raine101]

Yes ,it sounds live my life is in the past but why is every day so hard , even with medication. I was injured in an accident 3 years ago and since then my life HAS been tumbled upside down. I feel like I'm left to battle on my own and people just say"you'll be fine". They haven't a clue what depression is like Thanks for your reply and honest words.

[loggerslot]

Hi,

you mention that the accident has become a legal matter and for some reason GP or counsellor can't help, any ideas why?

what is so bad about this accident that they can't help?

how has the accident affected you, is the effect physical or just mentally?

What would you like us to help you achieve?

Sorry i'm trying to understand your situation before giving any advice.