IS IT ME THAT'S JUST WEIRD??!!

[En1234]

It feels like a lifetime since I last posted anything on here.

I think it is safe to say that I have not had the best of times in the last couple of years but I have muddled through and am now safe in my job. I work in a small Solicitors office for 2 really busy solicitors and although it can be stressful I am happy. I run the office single handedly and if you had told me this time last year that this would be what I would be doing I would have laughed!!

Anyway, all things being well, my son is going back to college in a couple of days time so hopefully things will start to get better for him to... the only thing I felt was missing was a relationship. I have dedicated the last 20 years to bringing up my son and working, so I felt now is the time to get out there and meet someone..

I went out with a friend and met who I thought was someone really nice. He was good looking, nice to chat to and had a good job, no ties, a nice flat...... and he really liked me. After 4 days of meeting him, I can honestly say I have never felt to smothered in all my life. He texted me non-stop and if he wasn't texting he was calling to the point I was ignoring him and pretending I was out.. I tried to speak to him about this and got all sorts of verbal abuse back. I was "an ice berg" "not a very nice person" "if sending you text messages and calling was a bad thing then there is obviously something wrong with if you don't appreciate the fact that I care for you" and "there must be some reason you have been on your own for so long" He even tried to insinuate I had a drink problem because we met in a pub..?? This has really put me off and starting to believe that there is something wrong with me. I sent him a text to try and explain that the texting and calling was a bit much but we could have sorted that but because he said the things he did there is no going back for me. I am glad I finished it because I now know that for every text message he sent and I didn't reply to was him not "having control" over me. If I didn't reply right away he would send me another on saying "Are you OK" as if he was "concerned". I cottoned on right away to what he was doing. I would like to think that I will meet someone nice but for now I think I am happy to be back on the shelf......gathering dust!!!

Thanks for listening!!

XXXXXX

[Stilltrying_]

He sounds like a total creep Theresa. You are well shot!! xxx

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Hi.

Agree with stilltrying and what she says..

This sort of behaviour will get worse and doesn’t sound healthy at all..

It’s awful when someone transfers the problem onto you and can mess with your head...you don’t deserve that..

Every good wish to you, sounds like you got away from someone who wanted to control you 😩

Take care 🌺🌻🌺🌻

[Mickle13]

OMG! I'm glad this guy showed his colors before you got serious about him! You're a smart cookie to have gotten out of that situation so quickly. 😊 He's an abuser, and things would quickly have gotten worse. Please be cautious...he might not accept your ending the friendship. I recommend that you totally ignore any further communication with him. Block his number, don't respond to any overtures. Call the authorities if he persists.

Hmm....he's not very bright. My two husbands waited til I said, "I do" before they changed from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde, lol! Guess I'm not very bright, either. 🤔 You've got good instincts, and you'll find someone who will treat you with the kindness and respect you deserve. After everything you've gone through in the last couple of years, you've clearly come out of it a strong woman who knows what she wants! Trust yourself, and don't collect too much dust!!

XXXOOO

[AuntBee]

I am so proud of you! You trusted your intuition and did what needed to be done. Don’t collect dust! On to the next one! There are still nice men out there. You just have to keep scoping. And I’m so glad to hear your job is going well!

[En1234]

Thanks for all your comments. I just felt as though I was now for the first time in a long while, in a really good place and there was just one thing missing. I cant deny that some of the things he said have knocked my confidence a bit but at the end of the day I feel quite glad that I had the brains to realise where this was going. When he sent me a text and I replied he probably took that as a "goal in the net" but for every time I didn't reply, he felt he had to ask if I was "OK" in order that I DID reply, therefore getting his way and if I didn't reply then he went into a bad mood!!?? Ive had enough complications, so like I said earlier, I will just stick to being happy and singe until I am brave enough to venture out there again!!

Theresa.. XX

PS. To my friends who I normally sent PMs to, I haven't forgotten you, I have just been a bit busy (as you can see), going out with not so very nice people/person!! XXXX