Care Warning for younger eyes: Contains talk of sexual relations.
Okay, so this is not something I would normally share but it's beginning to have an affect on my relationship and I wondered if anyone else has experience with this or advice?
I've had a troubled past, an abusive mum, I ran away from home at 16, I was homeless at 19 and have struggled a lot with anxiety and depression for a number of years. I started to take sertaline about a year ago after a toxic work relationship with my previous boss triggered me into a deeper depression. I think it's been about since then that I have lost sexual interest. Occasionally the mood suits and it's great, I enjoy it and me and my partner love each other very much, we have been together for 6 years now and are engaged.
I'm currently working really hard at coming off the antidepressants and introducing positive, healthy habits to help me cope with low days, and that is the forefront of my focus currently.
I'm really skirting around the issue here as it makes me feel uncomfortable being so public, so i'm just going to put it out there - my partner is not happy with the current state of our sex life. We have always had great sex, and he has a high libido for sure, but recently he says that he feels as though his feelings and lust for me don't matter anymore and that he feels left to deal with his own urges - I'd just like to say, as text doesn't really get a tone, that he is a wonderful guy and has dealt with a lot of my issues, always there for me and truly loves me.
I suppose I really want to know if this is normal for someone like me that has had a rocky start in life and taking anti depressants, will my libido come back eventually? How can I approach this chat with my partner without upsetting either of us too much and giving us a way forwards?
If you've gotten to the bottom, thank you for taking the time to read my post. Should probably add that i'm female and 25 years old.