It's official, I've finally dumped my last friend....

[Young_wolf]

The day i have been dreading for so long. The fear of going it completely alone, its an eerie feeling but I've finally done it. I've finally found myself worth and dumped the last person that took my kindness for weakness, the last person that would be so horrible to me and then blame me and insist they never do wrong, the last person that broke their promises and let me down time after time, the last person that made me feel worthless and mad. The last person I've ever cared about......

I'm finally at the point where my own mental well-being is more important to me than someone else feelings. But yet i still feel so unsettled about it. I feel like I'm turning my back on another human being and i would never want to do that but i feel i have no choice. My last contact with the outside world.

I'm scared I'm now going to be alone forever, I'm never going to find nice people to be friends with and spend my life being increasingly lonely.

Has anyone else been through this ? I really need someone to tell me i have nothing to worry about and everything's going to work out lol

[Hidden]

Well I used to have loads and I mean loads of friends, through time I lost touch with most of them and to be honest my interest in them left me too. I grew out of them I think. I'm happy now, I don't need to please anyone or go out of my way for them. I do have a couple of friends but I only see them 2-3 times per year.

Don't think you wont ever find friends again, you probably just feel like that because of the situation you are in at the moment.

Just by this one post you have written you come across as a nice person who is sensible enough to do good for themselves.

Enjoy your time alone until you are ready to go meet other people, being on your own isn't really that bad. Some people find that they prefer it.

You are on this forum, you can make friends to chat with if you are ever feeling alone just to keep you going.

So don't be feeling down, look at it as a fresh start where you are putting yourself first, the rest will come later.

Enjoy life.

[Shadow123-]

Yes friend. You have just descibed my life. The world seems to be full of unscrupulous ppl who suck you in then drown you.... yes they take kindness for weakness and they always seem able to manipulate the situation so that you are ' the mad one ' so cant be trusted anyway !!

I have also recently cut ppl from my life but my relationship with my daughter has suffered immensely- the perp was her boyfriend, and you got it - she's gone with him. Of course I'm still the ' bad one ' !!!

Anyway I wish you luck and light, peace and understanding. Try use as an opportunity to get to know yourself.....

Shadow

[Young_wolf in reply to Shadow123-]

Thank you for your reply and sorry to hear about your daughter. Hopefully one day she will come back to you x

[Shadow123- in reply to Young_wolf]

Thanks friend. I know she will and I'll be waiting when she does. Sometimes you have to let go and let nature take its course however much it hurts.

[diamond47m]

Yes I have. I had a best friend for 40 years that decided to dump me all because I said she didn't call or text anymore. I had another friend that did nothing but use me and I have nothing to do with her anymore. It's upsetting because all I really have is my 2 grown kids and my 87 year old daddy, but I have found that not having friends has not killed me, I am actually better off than I was cause now I don't get used, and I don't spend my life worrying about if my so called bestie is mad or why she hasn't called.

[Young_wolf]

Dont you get lonely though ? I have my parents to speak to also but sometimes i just want a friend. You know they come round for a moan and a chat, yous might arrange a night out to blow off some steam. I suppose im just missing having a connection with someone that isnt my parents lol