I know i got to think positive everyday to get over how I’m feeling but There is one negative thought that I can’t get away from

[Welshman41]

One of the negative thoughts I can’t seem to run from is?..... I don’t know any of my family, uncles, cousins, auntie,s etc, it’s only my mam and brother who I live with that I know really, and my problem is ever since my mam had a cancer scare a couple of years ago I constantly think of the future and that thought is?... how am I suppose to look after my brother when my mam passes, and the reason I say I got to look after him is cause he his mentally handicap. I love him so much and it’s only me really who understands him so it’s only me who will be able to help him through things but how am I even going to do that cause I don’t even think I will be able to help myself, when I was with my ex she did everything when my other brother died and I ain’t got a clue what to do when things like that happen or who to contact or anything? I won’t be able to cope myself. I got a feeling I already know what your going to say if anyone replies to this and that is try not to think of it and just concentrate on getting myself better now, but that is definitely a negative thought I can’t get away from.

I have other negative thoughts to but I’m not sure if saying these things are positive to talk about really what do you guys think? Should I write these down like I’m doing here in other posts when I got time?

[hypercat54]

Hi well the obvious thing to say is can you find your other relatives and maybe connect with them? That might share the burden a bit.

As for when someone passes it's not rocket science. You know they have to be buried/cremated so you contact a funeral home. They deal with all the details. They will also remind you that you need to get the death certificate and tell you where from.

Then all you have to do is contact others who might want to go to the funeral or put a message in the local paper.

If the deceased has savings then these get frozen after death until sorted out but you are allowed to access them to pay for a funeral.

Your mum though is still very much alive so enjoy the time you have with her as you never know what is going to happen in the future. We all die but for all you know your mum might outlive you! x

[Welshman41 in reply to hypercat54]

That as given me a lot of perspective on what I got to do know and it doesn’t seem so daunting.... thank you so much hypercat 😊

[hypercat54 in reply to Welshman41]

You are very welcome. x

[Stilltrying_ in reply to hypercat54]

Fantastic reply hypercat54. This just shows what good a forum like this can do in sharing our worries.

[hypercat54 in reply to Stilltrying_]

Thank you ST I appreciate that. xx

[Stilltrying_]

Hypercat gave fantastic reply and yes if there's other stuff it's good to write it down on here and share; as a problem shared is a problem halved as they say. Maybe someone on here will be able to help with these other things you are worried about.

They are not small things by the way. Having to take responsibility for a mentally handicapped brother is a big deal; but contacting other relatives seems like a great idea. Also yes please be kind to yourself as you are only just starting to get over the shock and horror of your relationship. Gx

[Welshman41 in reply to Stilltrying_]

Yes that is so true, a problem shared is a problem halved. Cause I was thinking after I text it on how much better I felt just sharing it.... 😊 thanks so much guys 😊 xoxo