I'm 23. And well I have shameful feelings and need advice.

[goldenblondie]

Spend most of my time feel worthless. Just a scapegoat to people. Like how I felt when I was in high school. Which is why I dropped out at 17. 23 years-old now and have never been employed. And well, besides not having a diploma or GED, I still live at home with my mother. Might I also mention that after dropping out I grew my hair out. Which I wanted to make myself look feminine. I had gay feelings but I've always fantasized about getting on hormone replacement therapy. I asked my mother how she feels about lesbians, gays, bisexual, and transgender people. She said she has no problem with that. You are going to be who you are. I wish to get a boyfriend but she isn't keen on me getting a boyfriend. I just I feel shameful.

[MAS_Nurse]

Good morning and welcome to this very caring and supportive community.

You have nothing to feel ashamed for, in fact it took a lot of courage for you to face who you really are, well done. Also it took more for you to talk with your Mother about this subject which could lead to further discussions with you. She probably knew all along anyway and was just waiting for you to voice your thoughts. I have included a website that you may like to speak with in the future as you talk about having a boyfriend.

Are there any other members who would like to add any positive comments I wonder?

Best wishes to you for the future and let us know how you get on.

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[goldenblondie in reply to MAS_Nurse]

And also I feel ashamed for not having a job or accomplishing anything in school. Not really sure how uncommon it is for someone my age not to have their high school diploma or GED.

[Hidden]

Hello Blondie

Sorry you sound so confused, would it be possible to go back to Education and take your examinations, just to prove you have the means to take that course of action may help your confidence.

Regards your Sexuality, work out that after you get your above tickets and see how you go.

Sometimes given time you will make more informed decisions regarding life choices.

The only guilt I can see is your examinations or your sexuality, only you can decide how you wish to grow up and move on in a positive way

BOB

[goldenblondie in reply to Hidden]

Well I'm not a immature person, but my life experiences so far have really lowered my self esteem.

[goldenblondie in reply to goldenblondie]

Also keep in mind that I also have a clean criminal record as well as disciplinary record.

[Hidden]

You sound like such a sweetheart.

As a 23 year old lesbian that has been through a lot of mental illness and shameful thinking. I actually live at home with my parents, and I have no qualifications, but I’m working towards my goals of starting to study.

I just have to say, there is nothing wrong with not having a diploma or GED, or living at home with your mother. Some days the biggest victory is getting to the end of the day and still being in one piece.

Perhaps you have a regular doctor and you could talk to them about hormone replacement or the acceptance of yourself, or maybe they could show you in the direction of a doctor that can answer your questions and help you out.

Being your mum isn’t a valid excuse to tell you if you can or can’t date someone of the same sex. I understand some parents, families, and friends don’t accept it so I can’t give you advice into just going ahead with it or just working on your own acceptance first.

But all I can say is, if people love you.

They will stay around.

[goldenblondie in reply to Hidden]

Thanks.