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[Paver18]

Where to start? Im 24 this is a first for me, I’m not sure what I’m looking for just somewhere to let it out, my partner of 7years decided that our relationship wasn’t going anywhere and that she wasn’t happy anymore so to end things was the only option. This isn’t something I was expecting and has absolutely crushed me I don’t see any point of anything we currently are still living together due to finances, what’s the point in waking up and going to work? To earn money? For what? Money doesn’t buy happiness, I’m having the thought more often as why even wake up in the first place? Nothing really matters does it? I’ve always felt “different” but always tried to ignore it , I’ve never spoken to anyone about it, I don’t have the courage to talk to anyone. The guilt I feel thinking about ending my life to the people close to me stops me from doing so, sorry if you think that I’m being stupid but I don’t know what else to do I just feel so empty

[MAS_Nurse]

Hi Paver18,

Welcome to our supportive community. Well done for taking a brave step out of your comfort zone to reach out for help. Hopefully, you will find folks here are only too willing to come alongside you and share from their personal journeys and experiences.

You are obviously having a difficult time right now. Honestly, suicide is not the answer! Your life is more important and valuable. You are obviously hurting and in a dark place right now, but I would urge you to speak to your doctor and get some professional medical/psychological advice and support. There will be a way to move forward from this situation, it may take time, but with the right kind of support and help you can find hope and a reason for living.

I'm not sure where you live, but do check out our Pinned Post section for free mental health guides, and keep handy our international crisis support helplines.

If you live in the UK keep these crisis support helplines handy:

The Samaritans Tel: 116 123 [24 hours line]

NHS: 999 [Emergencies]

NHS 111 [Non-Emergencies]

MIND UK charity: Helpline Tel: [phone] [e-mail] Text: 86463 mind.org.uk/information-sup...

SANEline Tel: [phone] [4.30pm – 10.30pm daily] sane.org.uk/

Keep in touch! Ok, folks what can you suggest to help this new member?

Best wishes,

MAS Nurse

[Rick1on1]

Hi Paver,

First, congratulate yourself for posting here and recognizing that there is a problem.

I would like to point out that yes money can't buy happiness. But it is an enabler. True happiness can only come from within. I think what may have happened is that you have tied your self-worth with your ex. It's a trap many people fall into so don't beat yourself up about it.

There is now obviously a gap in your life that can be filled with many things - I do recommend something that would boost your self-confidence such as volunteering, exercise or a hobby.

If there is a family member or friend that you can share your thoughts with then please take that course. They need to give advice, they just need to listen without judgement.

Else, you have us - so fire away with any questions/problems/situations that seem insurmountable right now.

You might also want to get to a GP for a prescription of an anti-depressant. I would start with an SSRI and will just help to balance out your brain chemistry.

Hope this helps?

[Strongheartforever]

You don’t sound stupid at all. You sound like someone with a broken heart and a very strong attachment to this relationship and this break is gonna hurt really bad for a while. But then you’ll feel better one day. And you’ll find a new person to love. And you’ll see that this relationship ran it’s course and went in different directions and that’s life. It may happen several times. But the first is the worst. There is so much more adventure ahead for you. Don’t give up now. Pain is part of the game. I promise it will get easier and you’ll gain some perspective down the road. Now it’s all chaos and sadness and emptiness and darkness. Hang on through this storm. It will strengthen you. You ending your life will send your family into a torrent of pain, you’ll just transfer your pain to them.