My Problem

[Helta123]

Hello, I’m new to this community. Please don’t judge me

I’m in love with someone who’s older than me, and he already has a girlfriend. I’m madly in love with this guy, and he won’t leave his girlfriend for me. I was out on my road crying on the phone to him and screaming and shouting like I lost the plot... he wants to be friends for his sanity though doesn’t see it through my prospective:(. I’d do anything for this man, I’d kill if I have to, hes literally my world, but I don’t like his girlfriend and whenever I see her or me and him talk about her I go into a tirade. If one of us was to do anything to ourselves then the other would do the same...

Has anyone got any ideas of what I should do?!

Thank you

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Hey! I have had the exact same problem without the girlfriend part lol give me a message

[rossie1942]

You need professional help. Please speak to your doctor. You maybe suffering from an anxiety disorder which is manifesting itself in this relationship. Reality is that you could end up in serious trouble and you will certainly not impress the guy

[Helta123 in reply to rossie1942]

I’m on antidepressants, and there no use at all

[AppsFun]

Can you change your focus? I know changing somthing that means so much that is a huge part of your world at the moment isn’t going to be easy. Any small steps you can take, can take you in a direction that will benifit you. Looking at the fact that this guy will not leave his girlfriend is one fact that may seem, ?small ?not your problem ?somthing you will change (I don’t know what your thoughts are on this) What ever you are thinking about the fact he will not leave his girlfriend? Should be screaming out to you this isn’t going to turn out good. Imagine for a moment you are in a comfortable relationship with another dream guy and someone is stepping into your relationship, how would you feel?

No matter how in love with this guy you are, it is obvious it will not work. It might not be that obvious to you and I think you are asking for advice to make it work? If I’m wrong please forgive me.

I do suggest you really think about how much of a dead end you would be getting into by pursuing this, how much more do you want to feel like loosing the plot? It is no surprise that you hate the girl because you want to be that girl, for this reason you are not going to feel good about her.

This is why I suggest changing focus, go in a different direction to these two people, be plesant to them if you see them but dont be friends. You may find that you may be missing the perfect single guy who will really love you and look after you because your focus is here. You may not feel you can take a leap and leave this situation but you can take small steps to start feeling a lot better and getting another guy that will treat you better and without question will love you back.

What do you think?

[Helta123 in reply to AppsFun]

I suppose so, I need to focus on work, even my manager has said I’m not the same

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Hit me up... I know how you feel!!

[Add2]

I'm sorry to tell you that, but this is not a healthy relationship, I'm not talking about the age part, but about the girlfriend part. Sooner or later he will have to choose between the two of you and as per your words he will choose her for sure and that will be so harmful for you. in other words, if he happy with his girlfriend and still seeing you then he is using you and you have to put an end to this bad relationship and try to find love somewhere else.

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The guys just using you as a bedpost something convinent to play with while you do all the running around

Hes not going to be with you only just for jollies so you really need to shape up and ship him out find someone that wants to be with you for the person not the sex.

Your far better to be on your own than being around(i wont say with them)someone that is just using you for sexual pleasures.