Abuse

[Sarahjane1968]

Hi, this is going to be hard for me to ask. Is there anyone who knows about hystoric abuse. That I Could TALK to. As im going through a court case. But got NOBODY to ask. I hope people can understand my frustration. As I don'tknow what to expect. Xx I feel so low and anshus

[Suzie40]

What sort of thing do you need to know?

[Sarahjane1968 in reply to Suzie40]

Just to be able too speak to smone that has been through what I'm going through. Did u get any support, before the court case. How was the experience of confronting the abusers when in court. Why don't we see the barrister before the day of the trial. Did u get closure. I'm so scared they will get off with it. As it's 2 people involved. The one that started has pleaded not guilty the other one has admitted TO some things. I don'tknow what. There is 15 different charges. I don't even know if It's ok to even ask people these things. I hope you can understand what I'm saying. Thanks

[Stilltrying_ in reply to Sarahjane1968]

Hi, its not very likely you'll find someone in exactly the same situation as yourself on here this evening as posts tend to be spread out over a period of time. But i am very aware of your need for reassurance and wonder if there is somewhere else you could look to get some help with this?

Presumably you have seen someone who has helped you bring the case to court? Are they able to give you more information of what to expect?

It must be a very worrying time for you and especially the doubts over whether they will actually get off with it.

I'm guessing there may be people on this forum who have been through something similar but they may not be on the site at the moment to see the post

. I do understand everything you are saying but not having had experience with this myself I find I am not able to answer your questions.

There may be other stuff available online if you were to do a search or as I say how about the person/people who have supported you in coming forward in the first place. It is a brave thing to do and I hope it goes well for you. Sorry I can't be of more help though. Anyone can help Sarahjane?

Gemma x

[Sarahjane1968 in reply to Stilltrying_]

Oh thank you for you're kind message. I have been thinking of looking on the internet. But to be honest with you. I don't know what to put in the search??. The CID OFFICER hasnt even contracted me since the beginning of Feb. I seen the doctors from the mental health. But there just doing nothing. I can't speak to my sister or my daughter who is 27 years old. Because it upsets them to much. My daughter found a letter that I had wrote to my mother when she was about 13. Otherwise she would have never known. But thank u very much. For even just ur concern. X

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I'm sorry that I can't help you regarding the court procedure, but I just wanted to say well done for speaking out and taking action against these two abusers. It must be very stressful to go through all this, but hopefully justice will be served and you'll get the result you deserve.

[sweetiepye]

I haven't had this experience, but I understand it to be when an adult accuses someone of having abused them in the past . I assume from what you wrote that you were abused as a child. If that is so , do you have support from a therapist or relative? You shouldn't have to go through this alone. One thing I would remind you of...you may be saving others from going through the same thing. It's very courageous of you. Please keep us informed. Someone is always here to listed. Pam

[sweetiepye in reply to sweetiepye]

Uh that should be listen.

[MAS_Nurse]

Hi Sarahjane,

Welcome to our supportive community. Well done for taking a brave step out of your comfort zone to reach out for help. As you begun to see folks here are only too willing to come alongside you and share from their personal journeys and experiences.

You are obviously having a difficult time right now, as one member has said, folks may not have experienced exactly the same situation as yourself, we are here and listening. Please bear in mind though, that although an incredible level of support and advice exists in this community it is anonymous, online and not professional in nature. So we do encourage you to try and get appropriate professional medical,psychological or legal advice and support.

Do check out our Pinned Post section for free mental health guides, international crisis support helplines etc.

Keep in touch!

Best wishes, MAS Nurse

[Angelcat01]

Hi. I have been through something similar to this in the last couple of years. It finally went to court in the last month. I’d like to encourage you to stay strong. Find a professional you trust and can talk to , this was very important. It’s not like on tv shows and the news reports where people say “ I can now move on with my life “. Unfortunately that comes from a lot of psychotherapy I found for myself.

I had a lot of support from different legal avenues before and during the court case- I consider myself very fortunate. As for the charges that were laid I was only able to know them after the case was finished.

It’s a very good thing that you are doing. Both for your own healing journey and for society. These people need to be held accountable for their actions. I will be praying for you Sarahjane. 💕💕💕