This is what some people still call domestic violence. I experienced it for over 10yrs from my son. Yes you read right my son not my husband or partner. This is an area grossly ignored despite more being know of other types of domestic abuse. He started changing from age 13. At first l thought it was just teenage tantrums and having no friends to speak to l had no basis for comparison. He was verbally abusive he would explode over the slightest thing. His tone when speaking to me was one of intense dislike he belittled me no respect at all. He would push me he put bruises on me (were no one could see) blamed me for making him angry. Would demand l apologized to him threaten to withold his board money. I can't go into all details but his anger was frightening. Why did l not get help? I believe domestic voilence meant being beaten black and blue. I did not realise there were other ways of abusing someone. By the time l realized he was over 18 and l could do nothing. I ws at the time of this happening suffering from anxiety and depression so it was hard to stand up to him. I hid a lot of what l went through from my family. I felt it was my fault and l ought to sort it but did not know how. He could be very charming my next door neighbour loved him. It is horrible to feel afraid of your own son to dread his coming home to be waiting for the next explosion.I spent 2 months in a refuge but returned home. In all time he abused me he showed no remorse. He lives in Canada now l have no contact l did for a while but broke it of when after another episode of his behaviour was the end. He came back because the person he lived with was violent and controlling. Oh the irony! I took him was he grateful? No! Ok for a few weeks then it started again.in the end he went back to his abusive partner. I had the locks changed and e mail to tell him l would not help him again. His reply was part poor me
Part threatning. I have done my best to get over this but it's hard. I have dreams when he is outside yelling to be let in. He has never said sorry or dealt heard from me how he harmed me. I have lost all trust in him and would be afraid to meet him again in person. I am afraid of anger in other people especially men if someone raises there voice l cower like a fightend dog. Get the abuser out of one's life is important but l have recieved no help since. I hope by telling you y story you realise there is more to domestic voilence that it being between men and women.Parents abuse children but children abuse parents also. I really need to talk about this but who to? my doctor 10 min max appionment don'tthink so. Friends are too busy family have own problems. Samaritans? Not impressed by them called them about other things not much good. It's time this area of domestic abuse ceased to be hidden in doing that the so called anti domestic abuse people condone this. I have search the internet but found nothing it's a disgrace. One last thing when l was in the refuge a lot of the women were almost disbelieving. I am sure they believed l had done something to deserve it. They were there because men abused them These men are someone's son did these men abuse their mothers too? Something for you to think about or do you still believe abuse come out of no were?