Wedding

Got asked to be the best man at my cousins wedding but had to turn it down I wrote a speech but I ament reading it out and don’t want to be there when it’s getting read severely anxious probably sounds stupid but with having ms a don’t want to even go to the wedding having mad thoughts over thinking every situation it’s all getting to me Big style

[MAS_Nurse]

Hello Gary-88

Thank you for your message. It sounds as if you are having a very difficult time over this wedding, especially giving the speech. I imagine your cousin may have no idea that you are having these feelings. Could you explain to him how you feel? It will be so natural that you might feel very anxious about this. If it feels just too much you could let him know. I am sure he will be understanding. Remember that the whole wedding party will be on your side and very supportive as things can be quite emotional all round, so perfection won't be required.

Do let us know how things go for you and keep in touch.

Our members are very supportive so may also have more advice for you.

Take care

[ladeda]

Hi Gary, I can imagine your fear, speaking in public gives me the eebbggbb's oddly enough it's also incredibly exhilarating after you a actually do something like that. Will Smith has a lovely talk on you tube about fear when he agrees to go sky diving which is well worth a listen.

Anxiety can be so crippling, sometimes it's better to put the big stuff at the bottom of your list and start each day with small things you would like to do that take you out of your comfort zone, they can be very simple things like saying good morning to a stranger. Ask yourself each day what it is you would like to do and what's truly stopping you, don't give a hoot what anyone else thinks as only you own your life and actions, you are as good as everyone else on this earth and have grown up with many skills that you forget you even have sometimes, it seems easier to put ourselves down or make the mistake of comparing our lives with those around us, but why?

You really don't have to do what you don't want, but make sure it's that you don't want to do it and not just those nagging thoughts about fear, they can be very deceiving and trick you into missing out on something you might actually enjoy.

If you have one voice in your head giving you reasons not to do what you would like, create another that smiles and says sod you I can actually do this. Take care and try something small first and see how it goes xx

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Thank you ❤️Xx