It’s my first time on this site and it’s all new to me.
I am a 37 old women and have a son that is 17, I have had a awful life and been through some very awful things and my son knows about them and I think it really affected him when he found out about the things that had happened to me, I never told him by the way! ( even though I didn’t realise how bad they were till a year ago and justified the things that happened to me, I just tried to get on with things and just thought I was depressed! And found it easier to pretend the things that happened to me! Wasn’t that bad! )
Anyway my son is 17 and a only child, he has OCD and has severe anxiety has had to see therapists since he was 5 due to things that happened in our life when he was younger , I am a very overprotective mother and would die for my son, would never let anyone hurt him. But feel like I need to protect him from everything and I try to control things in his life that I think could potentially hurt him in anyway.( because he is my life and couldn’t stand him suffering the way I have!
The problem is... I have made him quite anxious about situations that he should just be getting on with and is normal for 17 yr old boys.
He has for the last few years closed his self off from everyone and sits in his bedroom most of the time ( except from when he goes to college. He has only made one friend in 2 yrs of being at college!
He eats in his room and only leave his room to freshen up.
He only really eats one meal a day!
He says” I don’t like food and I never fancy anything to eat” “ I eat because I have to! not that I like it! He also says” I feel better when I don’t eat! He doesn’t like feeling full, he is very small and under weight and he started to go bald at about 15 yrs old
I am really worried he has a eating disorder ( I had one myself before he was born) I have always seen signs very early with him and got help as soon as I spotted them! ( something I have never had) I am the total opposite with him, to how I was with my parents because I know where they went wrong with me!and didn’t want to make the same mistakes with him, I just want to help him in anyway I can but don’t know what to do! I love him more than anything and he is the only reason I am here and as strong as I am! I can’t stand to see him hurting and would do anything to take it away!