Reminders

[lil_avocado]

I have to remember that just because people have hurt me and did wrong by me does not mean I go on a revenge spree and try to hurt them back. I’ve done that a couple of times in my relationship and it turned to hurt my fiancé. Shamefully, I can say I wanted her to feel what I did but after I realized how hurt she was it hurt me more... I learned my lesson and know that isn’t the right and healthy thing to do. Because now I hurt someone and they have to heal from what I did.

So just because someone has hurt you, it gives you no right to hurt them back. Just let karma do its thing. They have to live with what they have done. You just grow and heal and live.

Love and blessings. Message me anytime. ❤️

[Everafter]

Wow i so know how you feel x nope rise above we are better , its because we are to sensitive and insightful , like a physic power x lets use the extra parts of our brains to rise above xx and shout in your head fick them all xxx

[lil_avocado in reply to Everafter]

I love that! Yes. Such empaths. We feel everything don’t we? It’s a curse and a blessing.

[Everafter in reply to lil_avocado]

It certainly is i feel ok today xx pls txt me we can chat more , and nit ne so alone x my number is *********** emma x txt first so i know its you x dont be afraid im desperate for others like me as friends , others just avoid you , as we are too deep xxx

[lil_avocado in reply to Everafter]

Totally. Sending message now. Your name is Emma?

[Everafter in reply to lil_avocado]

Yes hun x they removed my number ! Gutted x friend request me its ********** , theres a pict of me with my **** of a boyfriend x you should recognise mr from profile pict xx

[lil_avocado in reply to Everafter]

I’m going to private message you on here

[Clarebear86]

I thought about revenge on my husband after I learnt about his indiscretions. But even though I found myself in similar situations I couldn’t bring myself to hurt him like that knowing how much it hurt me. Which made me in some ways feel worse because he actually went through with it whereas I said no & it was so easy to say no. At the end of the day what would it achieve? I would feel bad for doing something just in spite and yes he may realise how much I was actually hurting, but I would just be worse for it.

[lil_avocado in reply to Clarebear86]

I agree

[sweetiepye]

Basically I agree with you especially for the big hurts. I have no desire to cause pain to anyone , but sometimes I think Karma needs a little help. I'm referring to nasty little irritations caused for no other reason than someone's pleasure. I will take a mild revenge and let it be known because I don't want the aggravation in my life. I use to be anyone's target, but not any more. Pam

[lil_avocado in reply to sweetiepye]

That’s right!!!

[Kieron89]

Revenge is a dish best served cold as they say.

Love the thought process of what you have said, wish I could be more like that.

I guess trying to make someone hurt as much as you hurt makes everything worse in the long run.

Having just split from my partner of 7 years with 3 beautiful children, I'm finding it hard to let go and move on even though she has a new man on the scene which has really stuck the knife in. I feel bitter about it, another man doing what I couldn't, make her happy.

I guess its a case of letting go, and doing right by my children and let life run its course.

[lil_avocado in reply to Kieron89]

I’m sorry you’re having to go through that. I know it must be very hard and hurtful. That’s a very long time to be with someone. My blessings are all with you. I can’t say things get easier but I can say through your strength things will improve. You might not have the woman anymore but you still have your children and just that is everything ❤️ I hope everything goes swell and good luck to you!

[sweetiepye in reply to Kieron89]

It's been my observation that when a woman leaves one man she chooses a similar one to go to. Not exactly the same , but we are attracted to what we're attracted to. I'm just sitting here wondering what I could possibly say to give you hope .It is true they will always be your children. Hopefully you have some parental rights.You don't know that not making her happy was your fault. I have been married 51 years actually 52 next month. You are not slap happy all of the time, sometimes it is pure misery, but marriage is a process which involves the whole family. There is value in that. If you can't have that keep your home a sanctuary for you and your children. Pam

[pinkplasticball]

I agree, it is difficult sometimes, not want to punish people for your own gratification necessarily, but to give your pain to them so they know how it feels.

I once said, “I wish I could give you my brain so you could understand how I felt. “ and he replied “I would be stronger. “ that was hurtful of course, but I didn’t lash out like I wanted.

Sometimes you can’t make people see the light because they just can’t fathom where you are. Their brains aren’t wired the same. As much as you yell and try to hurt someone after they’ve hurt you, that just makes them defensive, and less likely to try and understand you.

I’m still working on anger issues, and remaining calm, but I’ll get there one day.

[lil_avocado in reply to pinkplasticball]

Hey guess what? That’s okay. Anger is something I’m sure a lot have to work on. Myself, I hold a lot in and lash on at the wrong people that’s never done any wrong. We all have time to work on ourselves. You’re great. Always. Just be gentle to yourself. Everyone’s healing process is different. 💞