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life is a dream, make it a wonderful dream

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Your life is what you make of it.

This phrase is everywhere. Why so many people can’t make sense of this!?

Keep searching and practicing different techniques until you ERRADICATE all those bad thoughts that clouds your mind.

Whatever the reason that you’re doubting yourself, practicing meditation can help to quiet the self-doubting noise and cultivate a confidence and love for yourself.

LOVE yourself, no matter what.

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nedd profile image
nedd

Your post reminded me of this poem. I throw it out every so often in to space. Thankyou for reminding me to rediscover it again.

Here catch

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.

Take kindly to the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.

Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann c.1920

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Bellisa in reply to nedd

thank you for this lovely reply. so glad my words were an inspiration for you to think on this amazing poem.

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nedd

It's not a political stance.

May be your your god is yourself of worse still consumerism!

Go well

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nedd

Oh you do make me laugh thankyou.

You have quite cheered me up.

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We can mention God i.e. God bless etc and stuff but no religious chat so you can post saying you find attending church temple mosque helpful but not anymore than that.

Nedds post us appropriate as not religious but spiritual.

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nedd

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.

To me it's encouragement to seek peace within.

We all get our fixes and happies where we can.

For some seeking comfort in introspection others shop till they drop to stick plasters on for a bit. Whatever floats your boat so to speak,

The invitation to to reflect on my "labours and aspirations" with in the problems of life.

And then acknowledging them an looking outward to a beautiful world.

Is a balm.

As a mate quipped.

"Life's crap and then you die, get over it".

Now I am off to hug a tree.

Bye

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Bellisa in reply to nedd

and don't forget to say hi to the tree for me. I had the best conversation of my life with one, completely changed the views from my past. I'm not joking. just meditate one hour in front of an Oak and you will understand.

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Bellisa

sorry to hear but it was for me too, I know you can!

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alfredox

Life for me had been amazing for 51 years even though I battled with long term depression since having kids. I've lived a full life, travelled a lot with work and family and played a lot of sport at a high level. Now however my body is suffering badly from all those years of competitiveness and I'm in constant pain.

When I read these posts stating that you can change everything but changing the way you think, I just suspect that you are not in the position of being able to do virtually nothing compared to your former lives. I feel that my future will only get worse and I struggle with the concept of being able to do nothing other than sit in a chair.

My youngest daughter is nearly 16 and a bit of a tomboy and I have to push her away because even hugging her can be too painful. Please explain how I can turn these into positives? My point is that I just don't think that your helpful spiritual positivity is actual of any use and in fact as can be seen from the original posters response only serves to irritate as it does me without explanation of your circumstances to put your new found positive life into context.

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Bellisa in reply to alfredox

Alfredox, it seems that you have been too harsh with yourself for so long that your body is telling you, enough. Time for reflection, pampering, sleep long hours. No guilt in pleasures. It's a new chapter. Be kind to yourself. I'm sorry that you have to go through this.

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Bellisa in reply to alfredox

I don't wish to irritate. I just wish to keep a positive mind and not let myself go down the old ways. I am working hard at having a positive mind. Is not easy.

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nedd in reply to alfredox

I am sorry that you are in such a dark place. The days are unbearably long when in constant pain. You brain is consumused by it and leaves little room for anything else. An if you are not mobile it doesn't have chance for respite to regroup by focusing on other things for a bit.

Throwing you a handful of star dust to light a dark corner,

Here catch

💫💫💫

go well

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seso101

When my brother died suddenly, instead of going into a period of utter devastation like I would have expected it, my brain started doing weird things to me. The world started to look a bit different, like I was in a different zone. And every time I started to feel bad about my brother, I would start to get a natural boost from my brain that would make me feel much better.

I stopped getting these feelings after a few months, but I wish I could find a natural (drug free!) way to get them back. The world just seemed better, a bit weird but more interesting, and it was all down to something my brain was doing to help me through that time. Our brains are amazing, I just wish we could make them do what we want more!

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Bellisa in reply to seso101

Seso101, that sounds so beautiful. your brother's soul was with you. I imagine some types of meditation can take you to a higher level. yes, our brains are amazing and we are not just body and brain, we have a soul too!

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seso101 in reply to Bellisa

Thanks Bellisa. I certainly did feel more spiritual, like there was more to everything. I also felt closer to death, but in a good way, like if it was to happen I'd be ready. Modern physical life drags us away and makes us think on a more material, unfulfilling level, but I think a lot of us would feel better if we could simplify our lives, change our environment and have more time to find that happier spiritual side, and lock into it.

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nedd in reply to seso101

Our brains are amazing the more I find out about them the more I view them of a thing wonder if not delight.

My own has high jacked my nervous system to produce unremitting pain.

I am sorry to hear about your brother. Although sorry doesn't do it really. I think sometimes we are highjacked in times of stress to help us though it. I had a massive panick attack unlike anything I had experience before, I was in an awful situation that wasn't going to resolve only get worse. And couldn't walk away from. I too had a wave of peace and calm. It was like my body said enough. Didn't last long but long enough to centre even if I was still wobbly.

If you find the answer send it I could do with a fix.

Go well

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Bellisa in reply to nedd

Nedd, I don't have an answer. Only you know what is happening in your heart and mind. Nobody can see that. For this reason, I have to say that is our own challenge to navigate in life the best we could. To understand and love yourself and be strong. Do you know about Louise Hay positive affirmations? They can be use as mantras, just choose one and repeat it every time you remember. instead of nurturing those bad thoughts that we all have, you will move them to one side with positive affirmations.

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seso101 in reply to nedd

Hi, I am sorry to hear about your pain. That is the downside of the brain's power. I started getting chronic pelvic pain 17 years ago. I have a few other problems as well and I honestly think they are all down to my naturally nervous personality - my brain developed a way to stop me from doing things that bothered/frightened me, like going to work, having relationships etc.

Some of us suffer mentally, but in my case i think my brain made me feel physically worse to "occupy" me and stop me from having to do things. But it absolutely wasn't and isn't what I want.

Distractions (I mean huge distractions) can work. My pelvic pain eased off for the first time in years because I started to develop bad acid reflux, which really bothered me because I love my food. Of course, nobody wants to get rid of a bad thing by replacing it with a bad thing, but I do think there is potential there to replace or override how we feel. Hopefully between us we can all come up with answers!

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