Resentment

[jamie1975]

In my younger years I let people persuade me and many years later I have so much resentment for letting that happen.im so miserable with myself and hate so many people

[20Voices]

I started a 6 phase meditation a few weeks ago. In that meditation one of the phases is about forgiveness and one is about gratitude. We don't spend enough time on being thankful for the things we do and the people in our lives and we can spend too much time on resentment rather than forgiving ourselves for our mistakes.

I also think that if you hold a grudge that the people that influenced you to do things you didn't want to do still have a hold over you and you can't move on until you let that experience go.

Maybe getting help with learning to forgive and also learning to accept yourself may help you.

Each night I do my meditation I forgive and let go of my resentment of a different person, I am working my way through a list of people who turned their back on my when I became ill and my ex went to stay with another woman. Not at a stage where I can forgive my ex yet, but I know I will eventually.

I hope this helps and that you can become happier with yourself. You can still make a difference and do things that make you happy.

Take care.

[jamie1975 in reply to 20Voices]

Thanks for your reply. I've been working on it and it gets better at times then it all comes back and have to start all over again. IV recently started yoga and I like and enjoy it bur this resentment inside of me keeps boiling. And I have council in for it too. I feel like people have pushed me around for too much and for what? I never did anything to deserve it. My feelings get hurt too easy

[DMM218 in reply to 20Voices]

The 6 phase mediation sounds interesting- can you do a post on it?

[20Voices in reply to DMM218]

I can do that I need a distraction tonight anyway.

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You need to address the resentment and move on CBT can help that so you should ask your GP, if not already and arrange a course so you can talk out and address you resentment and anger of those past times.

I was very much the same and I made big changes, I needed to move on and now I never concern myself with what has gone before.

You also need to grieve out these negative feelings, there is nothing you can do now, please move on. We all make errors they make us what we are today.

Live is a School, we learn and move on more educated that what we were.

If you dwell on the past, the Past will eat you up and then you will feel even worse because of the time wasted worrying about past errors

BOB