My "Ex" girl friend fiance is uploading the photos in FB on a daily basis is he trying to show how good they are to the world..

[sandy497]

My ex girl friend fiance is uploading the photos of both together on a daily basis.. guess he is trying to tell how happy they are together, as he knew of our affair and the hilarious part is Both his and her profile are been updated by him from girl profile he updates my love with the photo together and in his profile my life.. What is he trying to tell that she really loves him or he pretending to the world that they are happy. Its arrange marriage he convinvced her family knowing the fact she had a lover as their family wasn't aware of the affair actually we both had planned for our marriage as I dint had a job and she couldn't tell at home she got hooked or said yes to This bugger chap.. we are not friends, we have mutual friends who like or comment on the status or picture which does appear in my profile.

[Adorable1]

Hi Sandy.

I am sorry for your pain due to the relationship ending.

I understand it is difficult to move on, and feels very very sad.

Looking at the photos of them both and seeing these posts on Facebook is adding to your pain and delaying the process of moving on for you.

You can restrict what you see in your newsfeed from the friends connected with your ex or her fiancée.

I deactivated my Facebook account about a month ago now (got sick of the whole thing, and what people use it for) suffering with anxiety and depression there are some things about Facebook that made me feel worse.

Do yourself a massive favour (I know it's hard) but move on from wondering why this and why that about your ex. Concentrate on yourself and moving on.

I wish you well.

This is a great forum to post on and get it out of your system though

X

[MrCareBear]

And that's why I'm not on Facebook anymore...

[Adorable1 in reply to MrCareBear]

Totally understand

[MrCareBear in reply to Adorable1]

Its been exactly a year since I completely deleted my accounts on all social media sites and I'm all the better for it. Its sweet freedom, not having to find out things that you don't want to find out from other people and vice versa. Don't get me wrong, it has some benefits. But most of the time, I felt like it fuelled narcissism. Forces people to compare and consequently feel bad about their own lives.

[Suzie40 in reply to MrCareBear]

That is so sensible

[Adorable1 in reply to MrCareBear]

Yes ,i was initially just going to come off for a few weeks but each. Time I think about going back to it I decide not to. There were a couple of things I miss about it, although to be honest in my experience it seems to cause more animosity than anything else. People do and say things they wouldn't say to people's faces, it can be quite nasty..... Maybe go back to it one day when I'm in a better frame of mind but so far feel it's not good for me ....

[Suzie40]

Delete your account Sandy, I've said this before. You are torturing yourself

[Stilltrying_]

Sandy , you know what to do. If there is no way you can make one last plea and stop this arranged marriage from taking place (and you would only do that if you had something better to offer the lady and if she agreed to it wouldn't you?) then you need to just either leave facebook completely or stop looking.

You are obviously very attached to this girl but if you both really have no option but for her to go ahead with this arranged marriage then you have to accept it at some point

You say you were planning to marry her, get a job etc. Is there any way you think it could work out with her now, say if you were to improve your job prospects could you talk to her father?; but in honesty I think it is too late as is not the marriage due to go ahead very soon?

You know what i am saying. If you can fight and win and she wants the same then do it but that does not sound realistic at this stage and from what you have said it does sound like she may have moved on with it more than you have; has she said to you she is set against marrying this man at all? If not you have to let it go and leave facebook alone.

Appreciate you are struggling, leaving you a smile. Gemmalouise

[Gambit62]

Sandy, you really need to let go. I know it is hard but actually if you really love someone that's what you have to do sometimes.

Agree that you should delete face-book account - obviously not helping.

Posting the photos isn't not aimed at you it's just what people do and its where he is now.

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Hi Sandy rise above it and do what the others say delete your account take care.xxx

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That must feel like rubbing salt in the wound for you, but if she has got over the relationship so easily then for her it must have been less important than for you so hold in mind that probably it would not have worked anyway. I agree with the suggestion that you stop looking on facebook and find ways to get on with your own life, when you are happier you will not care so much about what she is doing. You may want to consider talking with a counsellor about the relationship ending as we often need help with grieving. Sue

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Hello

All I can suggest is move on, take the bull by the horns and get your life on a different track.

You are past watching. Life is new pathways, take them, enjoy the options you will find

Give the facebook twitter accounts a nice pure break. I never bother with them

BOB ,

[sandy497]

Thanx friends,

She has said infront of his face that she is marrying him because of dad choice and she is getting used to him and finding him better now. And planning for thier future as there is no option for her to fight back and face the issues at home.. well I have moved on, to some extent as I did find a good job feel she should have waited for few months as thing's are working out now. Well sure i'm gonna delete my account I can play the same trick like that chap but no point in posting picture's atleast now as things would be worse and I will be ruining her life. which I don't intend, I have loved her I can't see her in trouble anymore let she be happy with whom ever she wants!!!

Love to all

Sandy

[Adorable1 in reply to sandy497]

Well done on getting that job!! You are making inroads to starting to move on..

None of this is easy but with time you will feel better.

I wish you well.

Keep posting sandy it does help

Sue xxx

[Suzie40]

Sandy this is such a sad situation. All to often arranged marriages happen for the benefit of other people

[sandy497]

Thanx to all

I'm happy to be here then the Facebook gonna delete my account tonight

love and hugs

Sandy

[Sidhewolf]

Facebook is a blessing and a curse at times, block them and then you won't see anything about them even if they are mutual friends, sometimes it's easier said than done to come off of FB especially if its a link to the outside world.

[sandy497]

"I already recovered, but you keep coming back"

[Stilltrying_]

Well done Sandy; I'm really glad you're ok. Sometimes people don't realise the posts are a few days old and so they reply. But I am so glad you are moving on. Gemmalouise xx

[sandy497]

Hey Thanx,

Yipee got a offer letter, new job new place I guess I desperately needed it.. sad part is I don't have single friend there..

[Stilltrying_]

Hey that's great Sandy. Wow new job , new place! You will make friends as you are a lovely person. You have shown great strength in the way you have dealt with things; this is the start of the new you, your new life. ~Time to move forward in your life. xxx

[Adorable1]

New beginnings

You will make friends Sandy, don't worry.

Sue x