Mentally Sick

[Naus]

I m 19years old, i m totally lost i don't know what to do plz hlp me plz.

I have a bf for last 3yrs before we both want to marry each other but suddenly i don't knw i lost interst on him cuz he cheated on me and he do lots of things that i don't lyk,, before i forgive him for many tyms but now when i start talking with him i start cry cuz i just remembring the pain he give me for last 3years ..

Now, m total depressed cuz my parents don't lyk him and even my siblings too he want to marry me but i don't want cuz he do bad thing with me n even my parents dislike him now whenever i want to break up he doesn't leave me i just want to die ... What can i do i don't want this man n even my parents wants the i should marry some1 else...if i tell him i want break up he said he will destroy me and my family..

Please please please help me...( if any mistake in my line sorry😢)

I DON'T WANT TO LIVE ANymore..

[Vrt14]

If you really want this person out of your life, get together with your parents and make a plan. Sounds like you have a lot of people on your side. get the police involved too, if necessary

[Naus in reply to Vrt14]

He doesn't care.. i mean last 2days ago told him that i want breakup he told me OK fine n then suddenly told me that tomorrow i will come to ur house why u want breakuo and the said that i will make a plan to fight with ur bro..

My parents know about him but they never told me directly

[MAS_Nurse]

Hello Naus, Welcome to this community. It sounds like the relationship is quite toxic, and that there maybe some co-dependency issues here. From what you say, he has caused you a lot of pain, abusive and is not trustworthy. If you don't want to be in this relationship, you need to stand your ground and say so. He is using power and control tactics by threatening you and your family. I agree with Vrt14 it's time to involve the police. You have rights, and you do not have to do whatever anyone tells you to do. Be strong and get help.

Keep these International Crisis support lines handy:healthunlocked.com/mental-h...

Take care.Stay safe. Keep in touch.

[Hidden in reply to MAS_Nurse]

Hiya, I agree with what the other posters have said. Your own health, safety and happiness are the most important things, so do what you feel is the right thing for you. Take care,

[Naus in reply to MAS_Nurse]

Thank you so much... for the advice...

[Naus in reply to MAS_Nurse]

Thx... I m lost if i tell him that i want brkup he juz tell me that he will kill the man who wants to marry me.. he is really mad m afraid of him...

[Zoea in reply to Naus]

Police time! really. Sad but true. Maybe not sad in the end. That's the point.

How can you seriously be in a position where this idiot is dictating your possibility of a future relationship? Really?

I think you are being manipulated. It's time to knock it on the head. So sorry it's happened but I think from the tone of your posts you've not faced it yet. This bloke is BAD NEWS and that's just how it iS!

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Hi are you ok?

[Naus in reply to Hidden]

No,, m not okay dear

[Hidden]

Which country are you from..

[Naus in reply to Hidden]

India

[Zoea in reply to Naus]

eek. You should face it as if you were in a country that actually respects freedom and women, like the UK !

[SpeaktheTruth]

This guys is a piece of crap and does not deserve you. He has cheated on you and has caused you pain. He will cheat on you many more times if you get married.

Leave him. You are 19 and have your whole life ahead of you. You need to find someone who treats you with respect and truly loves you. Your family loves you and is right not to like him. Have some respect for yourself and don't put up with the way he treats you. There are many more guys out there that you can chose from.

[Naus in reply to SpeaktheTruth]

Thank you so much#speakthetruth...

Actually he cheated on me many many times now everytym after i caught him on cheat he say that he will never do but still he do the same after few days...

Almost more thn 10times i forgive him please tell me.... now i have decide to brkup RIGHT OR WRONG... PLEASE PLEASE ANSWER ME FRIENDS PLEASE

[Zoea in reply to Naus]

Why is this even a question from your side? I am indian but I do not associate with much of the culture of India, including arranged marriages, forced stuff, caste, etc etc. To Be Honest much of it is now BULLSH**. Just get out of there, get away from the man, get out of the situation, it sounds like your family have your back, ignore the threats, or report the threats, or ****ing get the idiot in trouble for the threat? You have this power, you should "man up" (I realise that's sexist but it's the best I can come up with !) and pull yourself out of this abusive situation. So he comes to your house and attempts to fight with your "bro"? Make sure the police are there first.

I understand better than some that India is different but to be brutally honest it is backwards and hopeless in many ways. BE the change you want and fine find a way to get to the place you deserve to be. Because that's the truth. It's just the way it should be, now and moving for were.

[Naus in reply to Zoea]

Thx #Zoea