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[Smartbob1]

feel worse than ever. So want to drink and feel happy for a while.

[Goldfish_]

But you know that starting drinking is the worst thing you can do. Happiness doesn't come easily.

How about a walk, a chat with a friend. Social contact and exercise, distractions.

[Smartbob1 in reply to Goldfish_]

Thank you not going to drink, maybe as I wont be able to as partner watching me. The best result at least xxxxx

[Hardtotalk]

I have felt like this many times as there feels like there is nothing else I could do but..... I darnt touch the stuff or it pulls me even lower to a point where I have even collected a stash of meds to take 😢Don't do it, I promise you will regret it x just keep writing on here and get it out please

We are here to help 👍

[Smartbob1]

Thank you so much xxxxx

[Photogeek in reply to Smartbob1]

Hi Smartbob please dont make things worse by drinking, remember how you felt over the work/drink issue and stay away from drink, not because your Partner is watching but because you want to make a fresh start.

Are you going to AA ? as this too would be a great support as you would meet people who understand addiction and the problems that come from it. It would help you to learn little tricks to overcome the urge to drink and you would get lots of support there, so be serious about your health and look after yourself.

Hannah

[Smartbob1 in reply to Photogeek]

Thank you so much xxxxxx

[Satsuma]

Yes don't succumb to the works of the devil .. Stay on the road, don't stray onto the moors

[Smartbob1 in reply to Satsuma]

Thank you so much xxxxx

[sweetiepye]

Dear SmartBob1, I come from a family with several alcoholics. They all ruined their lives and relationships , but the odd thing is it was never their fault. They all saw themselves as knowing more than the rest of the world, and they were taken advantage of, again never their fault. But the one thing that would fix it all was a drink. I know I sound bitter and the reason is whole families are affected, generations of families all because of one selfish person. It is devastating to watch. No one else can fix this for you, empty promises mean nothing, you have to do this for yourself . Happiness should not be your goal, getting healthy and whole again should be. I hope you have the strength and character to do it. Pam

[Smartbob1 in reply to sweetiepye]

The point is I feel like this because i know it is all my fault and i feel that I do not deserve any happiness. Opposite to what you say I blame no one else but myself. If I was selfish I would feel better about myself. This site makes me feel worse about myself. It is dangerous for me.

[sweetiepye in reply to Smartbob1]

Oh dear I was telling you of my experience with alcoholics.and it never being their faults. If that's not true for you that is good news. I want you to feel better not worse. I don't understand your last two sentences., but I wish you well.

[Smartbob1]

ok no worries, just ultra sensitive right now xxxx

[HelpingHandSam]

I'm here if you need to chat😃

[Rick1on1]

Hi SmartBob,

You could try and channel some of the guilt into a positive by assisting others. It seems like you feel you need to pay penance. If so, it could be part of your healing by "paying" it too others who are in need.

So, the idea is if you can't make right with those you wronged, make it better for someone else.

Hope this helps?

[Smartbob1]

Thank you I have thought of this xxxxx