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[celtic2746]

hi sorry to be so negative but im really down and i wish i could vanish the only thing stopping me is the fact my wife would be devistated the last weeks consisted of crying 2/3 times a day im on meds but i feel like nothings worth it ! please can anyone help !

[Photogeek]

Hi David I'm sorry your feeling so upset. Now please don't do anything , as its

Your whole family would feel so guilty.

David would you think about visiting your Dr. Next week as you seem

Very down. When we feel this bad its hard to think that we will ever

Feel better. We will feel better so try and hang on. You are a great old

Pal of mine here, and you always care and help me.

David I will be around tonight if you need a chat. It's very hard to get

Through a bad patch but you did it before.

Warm healing hugs

Hannah x

[celtic2746 in reply to Photogeek]

hi hannah thx for your kind words i know ive got friends on here ! i promise i will message you.let you know how i am ! weve been there before its just whilst its happening the dark thoughts try to take over i do remember what my sister told me is i would be missed so much she is a credit shes helped so much even thought shes got mental health problems herself but she understands me and as shes been through it she told me thats whats shes her for !again thank you and i will let you know how i get on at the doctors david x

[CarolineLondon]

Oh David Im sorry things are bad for you. Anytime you want me to go on one of my positive rants, Im there :-). You know my advice as always David, F*ck everyone this is YOUR life for YOU God given.

You could never be a more loved person, you beat a trillion sperm to get here and now you are here you deserve to be happy. KEEEEP GOING, KEEP GOING, KEEP GOING, KEEP GOING. Stop trying to please everyone or be something you are not and just be, and if anyone doesn't like it well they can push off.

You are a magnificient human being with a brain which is a million times faster, more agile and more capable than any computer.

You have great courage because life can throw you curve balls, but you are a man who can hold his head high, because you are still here, despite everything!

And as long as you live and breath there is room and hope for change. So give yourself a break, know that things can improve and know you have the courage and fortitude, deep inside to make that happen in your own time when it suits you. Baby steps, but you have a right David, to be on this planet to enjoy the free sunrise and sunset which is here just for you.

For now stuff everyone else and look after you, eat good food the best you can lay your hands on, play games whatever you love, rest all the time until you get your strength back. You can do this, though you may not care to admit it, with each time you get stronger and if someone like you, stood in front of you now and said I'm thinking of ending it all, you know exactly what you would say to that man.....You would say...

DON'T EVER EVER GIVE UP, DON'T STOP UNTIL SOMEONE PHYSICALLY STOPS YOU...and even if they try push them out of the way and keep on. You have exactly nothing to lose.

Good Luck my friend, I have complete faith in you and your capabilities.

[celtic2746 in reply to CarolineLondon]

hi caroline how are you my good friend thank you for the kind words youve always been one of the many people whove helped me in the past ! i would like to show my gratitude by helping others ! I really value your comments also ! im just have a really crap time just now headaches and not been. able to sleep due to deep seat fears i wont wake up due to the fact i had my brain bleed at work and not in my sleep which someone told me saved me ! caroline i will always see you as a true friend so take care and god bless you david x

[CarolineLondon in reply to celtic2746]

Hoorah as friends all we shall get through all this. Take heart and Thank you!

Maybe have a look at mindfulness, I wont go on and on but Ruby Wx explained how in times of stress she concentrates first on feeling her feet on the floor.

Then she tries to find a sound she can follow, so a repitiive noise or maybe traffic or a bird and she listens hard.

This empties her mind and stops the stress and internal chatter. And brings her into the present moment long enough to allow her a sense of calm. What this does I believe is like lifting the arm on an old record player allows you to put the needle back down in a different more positive place in the song and move forward...slowly.

Thanks for saying I help thats very kind, I only seek to remind you of what you already know and we all need that at times. You are an intelligent, resourceful man and things will get better, mostly because you want them too and know its the right thing for you.

Have a lovely day, lots of rest, lots of indulgence and maybe look for a few giggles....I love this, excuse me if at anytime I repeat myself.

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[CarolineLondon in reply to CarolineLondon]

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[kermitandpiggy]

Hi I'm sorry feel low, and don't appoligse for it on here you are not alone I personally think crying is good as a stress relief, it is ok to cry. Please carry on with your meds give them a chance. Please we are all here if you need us. xx

[celtic2746 in reply to kermitandpiggy]

hi kermitandpiggy thank you for your kind words crying is away of realising the tension rather than letting it build up ! society expects men not to cry as they think its a sign of weakness ! i will keep you in mind take care david !

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Hi Celtic I am sorry you feel so bad at the moment. Maybe a change of meds would help? I would advise you to go back to your doctors and tell s/he how you are feeling anway. Bev xx

[KrisPlus2]

Hi Celtic,

I'm 50 yrs old, and been cycling up and down (depressed) most of my life. As I get older and older, there's lots more up and less down. My last deep down was about 6 years ago.

Please remind yourself that there will be an up again, if you just can wait patiently for it. You WILL feel joy in living again. You WILL have energy again. You WILL take pleasure in everyday things again. Just wait, and get through the now.

Something that works for me is staying awake all night and all the next day, and spending as much of the daytime outdoors as I can. It's been a quick, inexpensive lift for me that works right away. I have no idea why, but it lifts my mood up enough to make things tolerable. I do it when I feel like I just can't take it any more.

[celtic2746 in reply to KrisPlus2]

hi kris thanks for your sound advice i will take it on board ! i know about the cycling of our moods i just seem to be ok for a short while then take a dive of about 1 -2 weeks ! again thank you for your advice david