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[henry1234]

Hello I have never been on a site like this! So not sure what to do! My name is sue and I have been struggling with alchol for some time. I am on anti- depressant but not really helping!! Sometimes I just feel like giving up! Both my elderly parents are very unwell! And I'm scared of losing them.

[Celtic27]

Hi sue sorry to hear of your struggle with alcohol have you tried getting help with it ! If not that might be a start i understand your worry about your parents but you need to get strong for them im not saying lock yourself away and concentrate on your parents ! Im in the situation as you in that ive already lost my mother in september and my father is unwell it took me ages to realise they wont be around for ever as much as we would like them to just enjoy.the goodtimes with your mum and dad as long as you can please take care david !

[henry1234 in reply to Celtic27]

I am so sorry about your mother! You must be finding life hard too!

[henry1234]

Thank you for your kind words David. I have tried help with alcohol but know it's only me that can do it! I wish there was a cure and may be one day there might be! As with all addictions.

[Celtic27 in reply to henry1234]

Hi sue have you ever heard of antibuse its abit. Hard to take as if you drink after taking it i can make you sick so putting you off. Alcohol ! Thank you for your kind words regarding my mum yes its hard and even now it doesnt take much to have me crying. About her but i tale it one day at a time ! Please keep in touch and let me know how your getting on take care david !

[henry1234 in reply to Celtic27]

Thanks David

[Celtic27 in reply to henry1234]

Your welcome

[Mandy6513]

Alcohol is a depressant but im sure you know that ...only you know how bad it is but if its a real problem its time to speak to your gp about it because it could be clashing the the anti depressants your on. Sometimes we can get into a habit of drinking because we think it helps but its just another issue to deal with and the problem we are trying to avoid by drinking is still there..

Are you taking care of your parents ? Are you getting enough support with their care. I lost both my parent when they were still young my mum was only 65 so i know your fear and you could discuss all this with your gp they may be able to offer you some counselling

[henry1234]

Hi Mandy my dad has been in a nursing home for two years unable to get out of bed! I visit him every day as he gets very fed up with life..my mum lives on her own and has M.N.D but between me and my two sisters we cook and stay over night with her. Both my sisters work so I do most of the care. I have been to my gp a few times and have been put on different anti d.s....not working so far!! Counselling has been offered but my husband thinks it will only make things worse, so declined! My husband thinks I do too much and my parents should just die! Which I feel very upset and angry with him about! He is older than me and feels he should be enjoying life..any way I can babble on forever! Thank you so much for your advice..I think at the moment I'm just a hopeless case x

[Mandy6513 in reply to henry1234]

Oh bless your heart you do have your hands full...My dad had MND so i know some of the struggles your going through and it isnt easy.

I had counselling myself when my dad died and it did me good just to have someone to blow off steam to more than anything else because although i have a sister and 2 brothers there was things i needed to work out that i just couldn't talk to them about ...You must do whats best for you to get you through this x

[henry1234 in reply to Mandy6513]

Thanks Mandy x

[Jennyofold]

Hi sue , have been suffering with alcohol addiction for the past 24 years and my girlfriend has just left me. I am absolutely devastated and totally alone. I contemplated suicide last Saturday but the thought of the devastation to my siblings and extended family stopped me from doing it. I sought help with the alcohol on Monday, started with my G P and was referred to an alcohol advisory service. they helped me and after several calls to the Samaritans I've now been dry for two days and nights, going for a third tonight. Nobody is a hopeless case. Still searching for more strength and help. Keep trying. Pete

[henry1234]

Hi Pete I'm so sorry about your girlfriend...please don't think your alone you can contact me any time sad or happy! I too have been drinking for many years and sometimes feel like ending it all.. But I have a son and I couldn't let him live the rest of his life knowing his mum committed suicide!

It's fantastic you have been dry for two days and nights.. I could only manage only one day..please find the strength to keep going and keep in touch.. Sorry if I don't reply quick I'm mostly at my mums and there's no internet there and my mobile is very basic! Remember your not alone... Sue x

[henry1234]

Hi Pete hope you're ok.. Been thinking about you today.. My day has not been so good as alcohol has taken over! Not drunk! But had a lot and now not many people notice any difference! That makes me feel lonely! Mums birthday today so been down to nursing home with dad and sisters and cake! And put a happy joyful face on things! Still no body knows... If things have gone wrong don't worry there's always tomorrow! Kind regards sue x