The entire world doesn't like me

[noname_17]

I know the world is against me. I'm in the section people just don't like. There is nothing I can do about it. I have to just accept that as soon as people meet me they don't like me. As soon as something in my life upsets me I end up starving myself for a few days. I know self harm is not the answer but I blame myself and take it out on myself. I feel like people will think I am overreacting if I stand up to the people who mistreat me. I know I could have achieved so much more in my life which is why I'm such a loser saying this anomously online

[tofler]

Hello and welcome, how come you're being so hard on yourself? Standing up against people who mistreat you sounds like a very positive thing to do.

[Hidden]

I know how this feels. I really do. You are not a loser you are a vessel of life and have a unique purpose that cannot be fulfilled by anyone but you.

What helped me was listening to a YouTube guru Leo on activate.com. He's a bit harsh but basically his message is... you don't have to please everyone and it's useless to try. People care about themselves much more than they care about anyone else- they are usually reacting to their own version of reality. Rarely do they even see you. You will find a few gentle souls who are awake and caring but most people just go through their day on autopilot worrying about money, love, and acceptance.

Try not to take things personally. It's hard but it does help. Ie a nasty person is a nasty person no matter who they encounter. It's not you.

[sweetiepye in reply to Hidden]

So true.

[Hidden]

Hi there

Little Traveller is so spot on!

I went through such a long period at work where I was isolated and treated differently and I was always wanting the approval from the people that wasn't keen on me. It is much more important to find your people and build those relationships.

It's funny cause now I've not bothered with the people that don't matter (whilst continuing to be lovely as ever) they now seem to have accepted me. They even come to talk to me at my desk.

I've been bullied and treated differently by my boss too but after a meeting the other day where my boss picked out things I'd done wrong and someone I'd upset (giving only the other side of the story) I called a meeting of my own with HR. At last I stood up for myself and it feels great!!

Don't beat yourself up any further and please get the help you need. Get yourself assessed to get a diagnosis for your illness. Remember it's a low and eventually as always things improve somewhat. Try keep active and keep busy.

Warmest hugs and wishes x

[jennyjolly]

As long as you love yourself and 'God' loves you who cares about the morons of this world

You're not dead

You can still achieve your reachable goals

You need to replace your negative thought patterns with POSITIVE

Read 'The Secret' /other positive thinking books to achieve this transformation.

All good wishes

[jennyjolly]

'A Horse With No Name' 70's song recorded by 'America'

On the first part of the journey,

I was looking at all the life.

There were plants and birds. and rocks and things,

There was sand and hills and rings.

The first thing I met, was a fly with a buzz, and

the sky with no clouds.

The heat was hot, and the ground was dry,

But the air was full of sound.

I've been through the desert on a horse with no name,

It felt good to be out of the rain.

In the desert you can remember your name,

'Cause there ain't no one for to give you no pain.

After two days, in the desert sun,my

skin began to turn red.

After three days, in the desert fun,

I was looking at a river bed.

And the story it told, of a river that flowed,

Made me sad to think it was dead.

You see I've been through the desert on a horse with no name,

It felt good to be out of the rain.

In the desert you can remember your name,

'Cause there ain't no one for to give you no pain.

After nine days, I let the horse run free,

'Cause the desert had turned to sea.

There were plants and birds, and rocks and things,

There was sand and hills and rings.

The ocean is a desert, with its life underground,

And a perfect disguise above.

Under the cities lies, a heart made of ground,

But the humans will give no love.

You see I've been through the desert on a horse with no name,

It felt good to be out of the rain.

In the desert you can remember your name,

'Cause there ain't no one for to give you no pain.

[noname_17]

I want to thank all of you for taking the time to respond to me. When I read back what I wrote I can see how upset I was from what I was saying. Your kind words have helped me to realise not to focus on the things and people that don't matter, and to not take it out on myself. A few years ago a breakdown of a relationship affected me deeply both mentally and psychically. I never told anyone i was suffering from deep depression which lead into anorexia and self harm. It cost me my university degree and I wasted money I inherited. I lived through this nightmare for over a year and I am proud of myself for getting through it. But this experience has left with personal demons which surfaced when I felt I couldn't take the pressures of life when I wrote that message to you. From today I will never focus on the people in life who mistreat you and don't matter and as you told me, to not be so hard on myself. Thank you x

[Hidden]

Glad we could be of help. It's not a easy journey at times and you'll still at times relapse into the negative thought pattern....I still do at times but just have to change the thought process and reconnect with my people. keep us posted on your journey ☺