Why me?

[Stacey97]

Why does no one ever sick around with me, like I'll meet someone and get to really like them and then all of a sudden they want someone else and don't want anything to do with me anymore. What do I do wrong? Why am I do bad at life? Why do I get treated like trash that people use and throw away when there finished with me?

[Hwood14]

Maybe these people arent worth your time if they treat you badly. You are precious and deserve to be treated with respect x

[Satsuma]

I agree there with Hwood14 plus also they cannot understand how we feel with our illness and they are unable to support us as they have not the resources emotionally .. There are people out there that prey on our vulnerabilities too and are all out for themselves and simply want to take, take, take from us. They walk away when they have drained us

[Stacey97 in reply to Satsuma]

That's how I feel like right now, like all people do is seem to use me and then once I have helped them or got close to them they just throw me away like it's nothing!

[Satsuma in reply to Stacey97]

Stacey97 yes that has happened to me too. These people are simply not worth it. I have found that we have to put up boundaries to keep ourselves safe and work on our self esteem .. The only thing we can do is move on from them and know that what goes around comes around. May not seem like it now but it will .. Patience .. They will get their just desserts ... Believe and Trust

[LoriMS61]

Hi Stacey, sorry that I forgot to reply when I asked you to tell us more about yourself.

People usually tell us what has triggered their visit to this site, what they've tried before (if they've tried anything r if this isn't there first time). Some people talk about what causes them pain, or a particular situation that they need advice on.

Is there a consistent pattern to the way you interact with people? I personally get attached to people quickly, and I've learned to collect good people. I've lost so many loved ones and as a result, I try to fill the void with new people to love.

Maybe there is something you can learn about your habits to make sure that you don't get used in the future. What could you do differently? I've learned to say no. It's not always a popular decision, but I have to practice putting myself before others.

Lori

[klingonjl62]

Stacey - I can't believe people get to know you and then choose to be friends with other people. Are you talking about friendships or more intimate ones?

[Wintersbite]

How long are you giving these new so-called friends to make and brake you?

I have a system for making friends and I've got three long-term friends and lost one that couldn't handle me and it didn't bother me when I lost the fake friend and my way is easy and honest before the commitment of friends.

I have epilepsy everyone sees the epilepsy no one sees me so what I do when making friends is for one week in the getting to know you phase I don't mention the epilepsy as that would be it no friends and if I feel like a friendship is happening then I sit the person down and tell them I like them and hope thay like me as a friend but I have something to tell them and it's big thay already know the real me so what I tell them now is a huge thing but it's not me and I can help them understand and guide them into what to do.

My oldest friend I've had for 20yrs and she learnt everything to do with epilepsy because of me.

If you want to try it my way help yourself that's why I mentioned it maybe your leaving it too long before you mentioned you have health issues or maybe you didn't give any time so the people only seen your health and not you I don't know what you do but I do know i had that when I was growing up and my friendship pattern works now but you must tell them