I told my counsellor I loved him. I know this is not appropriate but I have told him, it's my next to last session next week, he said it's called Transference, I think because he has helped me so much I get more help from him than my husband.
Is this normal ?
Yes it is quite common for that to happen and as he said to you its called transference...Im glad you told him this because you may struggle a bit when you stop seeing him and he can prepare you for that.
It makes total sense to fall for a therapist because your sharing such intimate details of your life so dont worry about it x
He is a married man and I am married also but I said him and my other best male friend are 2 important people in my life because I can't share anything like this with my husband x
He has probably been told that many times...Its great that you got something out of counselling
Hi Angel; yes its very common, I have been in therapy for a number of weeks now, and find myself ,thinking, I would love to live with him,also I find myself, dressing up,and making sure I look good, going to him...I would say its an attachment we feel, more so than love, because they understand us more than anyone else,and our anxiety would be low, if we had out therapist on hand 24/7, I am sure he is used to people having those feelings, and understands how they can come about...take care Angel xxxx
I feel a lot for him and it's wrong I also love my best friend Tony who is married and both my counsellor and him don't shout or call me names
Thank you xx
This happens a great deal and it once happened to me, generally they may withdraw the CPN to prevent any problems. The way they treat can sometimes make the patient feel there could be something in the relationship because of what has been discussed.
Generally the CPN is married with kids and the dynamic between both parties would fail. If it ever happened in the first place
The relationship between CPN are in ways manufactured between two parties and do not represent a viable deep meaning friendship or relationship
Sorry
BOB
I suppose I can see it as a dream that I can hold in my heart forever xx
Yes that is true Angel, I was lucky I had the same CPN for four years and it took time for me to understand my errors. With me I started to do Voluntary work and I then understood no-one is perfect, even the so called healers have real mental health problems, sometimes, they are no different to those they heal.
BOB
Hi,
Have a read of my post called 'Advice Please'. A lot of people gave me very good advice. I didn't love my counsellor but I felt very attached. Our last meeting was spent helping me come to terms with the end of our partnership.
She recorded a Mindfullness technique for me so I have her voice to give me strength.
I feel like you might want to talk some more about your relationship with your husband?
Lori
That sounds like a good idea, I'm dreading my last meeting with him ,I am there on Tuesday I feel I need to ask him about things when I leave there, there is things to discuss about my husband but it's quite intensive, I'm getting there slowly
Yes this sounds unsurprising and being in such a close tense conference your feelings will be all over the place, work forwards and it will all work out in the end and you will see them as a therapist again
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