I'm new here and wanted to get some type of support as my life has been pretty up n down lately. I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago? We've been on and off primarily because I don't think he wants to let me leave. We still hung out and stuff because I wanted to be there for him as he was going through severe depression and he hasn't really made any lasting friendships and had nobody to turn to. I would agree to hangout to "talk" so that he could feel supported but every time we were together he would try to kiss me, or talk about us and how sorry he was for cheating on me. He's a pretty emotional dude, and is paranoid about me getting with other guys. He asks me about 6 times a day, making me promise I'm not talking to anyone. My empathy made me easily manipulated. I know I need to stop talking to him completely because trying to be there for him is taking a toll on me emotionally. He hasn't treated me well. We often gets angry saying hurtful things, making me cry. Lately he has been talking about suicide, so of corse I begin talking to him again. I still really care for him. A few days ago he picked me up from work super drunk. Our plans got canceled so I asked him to take me home. He did not want to and kept saying he wanted to be with me. As things escalated he began driving very fast and unsafe in the freeway, Putting his head down on the steering wheel and swerving over thee lanes of traffic. I was scared and screaming at him to pull over and when he did, I continued to scream. He reached down into the glove compartment and grabbed a knife which he then plunged into his chest. I saw blood and I thought the knife went all the way into his chest. I called 911 and rode to the hospital with him in the ambulance. He kept saying "I love you" over and over until I said it back. The knife hit his sternum and the wound was very small. We spoke in the hospital and he kept talking about how he wanted to be with me for the rest of his life and how he's sorry and told me to think about it.
I don't know how to handle this situation. I am a caring person but I don't know how to help. I know I need to put my needs first. He is released from the hospital now and wants to meet in person to talk about what happened. His dad is suggesting a restraining order.
I guess what I want to know is how to handle a breakup. How to manage someone's suicide threats and how to to support someone while maintains boundaries.
Thanks so much for taking the time to read this