Feel I want to sleep and never wake up

[FACE123]

Hi I'm feeling so down these last year my wife lost our baby still born. And now I've lost my job though my own stupidity. Nothings going right these past 6 months.I feel I just want to fall into a big sleep and not not wake up to my living nightmare. I've two lovely kids who keep me going.

[Mandy6513]

Im so sorry you both went through something so terrible. Losing a child is one of the worst things we can go through and i hope you have both found some counselling for this because it would really help. x

[FACE123 in reply to Mandy6513]

I was supposed to go to counselling but I never returned there call as I feel not easy talking to strangers or if anyone

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Hi I am so sorry to hear all this. This is a depression site though - do you think you are suffering from this? If so you need to get a diagnosis from a doctor and start treatment. x

[joleco]

Hi Jaseace,

I send you a huge warm hug, (((hug))) and my sympathies on you loosing your child and now the job set back.

I can't imagine what it must be like to loose a child. I hope you are able to take comfort in a wonderful wife and two beautiful children.

If you can, try to take this time to focus on getting your spirits up, reaffirming your family unit without the distraction of work (even if you have some income problems)

visit your GP, get some counselling if you can. You have a family unit to stay strong and focused for and the love you all give each other - this is real purpose in life.

Take action today Jaseace, even if its doing just one small step each day.

Keep strong.

Best wishes

Joleco

[hgrimmer]

Hello.

I'm down too.......but I hav 2 boys who I adore and keep me going. I think there is another world beyond here where all things are happy.....but then how do we know we are happy if there is nothing sad? losing your baby like that is the most awful thing to happen to you I suppose. You will find another job. Dont give up!

We're all inclined to do that but in reality ther is only one way and that is up.....so give it a try and get out there and look for that job. I wish you the best of luck and hope things do improve for you.

look after those kids - precious cargo.

Hx

[Kjb1980]

I'm so sorry that must be incredibly difficult on you and your wife and definitely counselling would be good for you both. Good you have the family unit to keep you focused even if it's blurry at times. Everything looks naff at the moment but take 1 step at a time and it will all come together. Take care x

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All I can say is I feel your pain,

Yes you have lost a child, although now you need to live, for not only your Wife also for your two children who are very much around you now.

Death is not for living and you have your family that are very much alive.

Your Wife must be feeling so very sad and distressed and you need to be strong and look after those who need you to be there.for them now.

You say you have lost your employment through your own stupidity, I do not know what you have done, all I can say is look for that new position. Look towards the living as it is those you need to provide for.

Both your Wife and yourself need time to heal, take time and look forward to another work chance that will come about when you are ready

I do feel for you both. You need to heal so your GP should be able to arrange some CBT or something similar.

You need to grieve and recover from this sad loss, be kind to each other you both have a great deal to live for

Good Luck

BOB

[Skahadiva]

Hi Jaseace. I'm so happy you have your two children to keep you going. Sometimes we need that; for me it's my cat and dog. Having something/someone who is dependent on you is that 'thing' that makes us wake up in the next day. I hope you are under the care of a good doctor/pdoc and that your kids never have to deal with losing you - they'd be so devastated! I came close to not waking up, and the devastation my family and friends experienced was overwhelming. You have people around you who care more than you know; don't be afraid to open up to them and let the know what you're going through. Their support can be amazing, and having someone to talk to is really important to your well being.