For about 40 years, the society has left the choice, and the responsibility, of becoming or not a parent to women.
For many years now a surgery is possible to allow women to not anymore absorb those amounts of drugs and medicines who, I think, have side effects on their bodies.
This surgery is called vasectomy. In short, it I "just" cutting the pipe from the prostate to the penis. Nothing changes, it is just that ejaculation have no spermatozoids in it. No change to pleasure, duration of sexual relations or whatever, it is nothing but a definitive "dummy load".
And, from my point of view we, men, should be more informed and receive information from our doctors about this surgery.
It is painless or so, takes 10 minutes and you are back home on the evening of the operation.
I had a vasectomy a few weeks ago and I feel kind of proud of this, I see it as a "I am part of the decision" with my wife, and I think it is very important.
What about you? Has anyone else had this surgery ? What's your experience?t
Let's talk soon !
Love from France
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While I don’t disagree with many points raised here, my experience is that a vasectomy ABSOLUTELY changed the intensity of my orgasm. That’s not to say it’s no longer pleasurable, but I was previously able to feel a lower tingling sensation in my testicles (transfer of sperm?) that I could feel at the very start of an orgasm that’s no longer there. I wasn’t prepared for that and I was angry that wasn’t mentioned. Maybe I’m just that one in a million, but I’m curious if others had a similar experience? Would that have stopped me… maybe not due to all the reasons mentioned… but there should always be full disclosure and we should never make a blanket claim that no one will have a negative outcome (putting aside the typical complications from this type of surgery). In my opinion, time fades memories of the previous physical sensation and although I feel robbed, it was still the right decision in terms of what I could do for my partner.
This is interesting as, and you mentionned it, this is not "written" anywhere.
Do you think thay you focus so much on the orgasm that you forget it or has it just disappeared ?
I am very interested, as a "recent" vasectomised, to share experiences and feelings. So far, I have not detected any change, but I have not been "looking for" or, ar least, microscoping, those changes.
Yep had one as Mrs Omniscient rightly wanted to come off the pill. No brainer. 20% of men have it done. It should be more I think, esp after you've 'had a family'.
Agree with your message. All men should be willing to have a vasectomy if they are sure they don't want to help create any more lives. I had mine done in my 30s after fathering two healthy children and, knowing my wife was in danger of blood clots when on 'The Pill', it was an easy choice. One thing - I had to decide for myself too, as I did consider if my wife died or if we had a divorce, would I, personally, want to bring more children into the world with a different partner? I decided no, so went ahead with the procedure without further hesitation. You say the vasectomy involves severing the connection between prostate and penis, but this wasn't the case for me and I fear you may be misinforming others. The snip is done in the scrotum, to cut the spermatic cord, sometimes tying the ends back to ensure no sperm can reach the outside world. This is why it's such a simple procedure. If the cut were done after the prostate, which comes later in the sequence of ejaculation, and is internal up in the abdomen and after the bladder, it would require general anaesthesia and as it produces much of the seminal fluid carrying the sperm, this would indeed affect orgasmic sensations, as complained of by Davedude. In fact there is no way Vasectomy can affect the feeling of orgasm, so I think Davedude is confused as to how his sensation changed. I believe this is physically impossible. Too many times, I have read men confusing semen with sperm, and implying that our testes provide fluid. They don't, they just produce (1) hormones, which circulate into the blood stream (unaffected by Vasectomy) and (2) spermatazoa which are so tiny we cannot possibly feel them in their constant transit from testis up into the abdomen. Furthermore they are stored in our seminal vesicles, which are also inside the abdomen near the bladder and not in the scrotum where the vas is severed. We need to educate ourselves better about our own genital and urinary systems and not contribute to myths and errors in anatomical knowledge! However, I still commend your message that we need to be more willing to undergo vasectomy than many seem to be!
Not confused at all. Again, we can only talk about personal experiences, but it’s not particularly respectful to diminish a comment in that fashion. Luckily no has experienced complications that can arise from even simple surgery… but it’s not necessarily about what we “believe” is physically impossible.
It I surprising that, in 2023, a so-called "modern world" this small surgery is not that more promoted, as if having or not having children and a family is only a women choice / responsibility.
Time's come, I reckon, to change and we, men, have to take an active part in to this choice, to free a bit more those who share our lives of a difficult choice !
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