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(16) So for a long time I have wondered about how my foreskin works and such. I have foreskin that is alot over my head when flaccid and even when its hard i have it right on the spot still over not revealing anything but a little of the tip and When flaccid can pull back the foreskin with mild pain. So whenever i have sex with a condom on i dont feel any pain and it is normal and such but whenever i have sex without my foreskin will try and pull back i have tryed to tuff it out before and made it for a bit just trying to ignore the pain but this did not do anything so i stopped attempting and stuck to condoms but i would jus like to know if anyone has any advice before i ask my doctor or parents (which i am shy to do) Any advice would help greatly

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If you are "brave" enough to have sex and thankfully smart enough to use a condom, there is nothing to be "shy" about when it comes to your health and your body. It might be an uncomfortable subject for sure, but if you talk to your dad and tell him you need to see a urologist for something he should be understandable enough to take you without asking too many questions. And even if he does, it is because he is worried and wants to help you and nothing else.

As for doctors, urologist (most likely depending on the age of course) have seen hundreds or thousands of penises so seeing another one isn't really anything weird to them. There are quite a few people that might be suffering from your condition as well so its nothing new on the planet. You could be suffering from a case of phimosis, but only the doctor, after examining can tell how mild or severe it is, and that will have an impact on your options.

It could be that you won't need a circumcision and stretching will be enough, it might be that you will need a circumcision and even if it might be the best for you (in your circumstance, not saying it is mind you) you don't have to get it, you just then have to live with the possibility of consequences if ignored.

Basically, best thing to do, is to see a urologist and go from there.

Good luck.


Foreskin stretching.

It is not necessary to tell your parents. Actually, it is better if you don’t. They might take you to get circumcised, which is the last thing you want.

Please do not worry. You are normal for your age. Your foreskin is still developing. You don’t have phimosis. You have a normal, non-retractable foreskin due to your youth. It is not uncommon for teen guys to have a foreskin that does not retract.

You are blessed with a protective, highly-innervated, erogenous full-length foreskin. Many unforeskinned guys would envy your foreskin. You display great wisdom in wanting to avoid circumcision.

You should thank your parents for protecting your physical integrity. Because of your physical integrity you will be able to have sex the way nature intended it.



Do not be misled by those who want you to have part of your penis cut off.

Every male starts life with a tight, non-retractable foreskin. Some get looser automatically and some need a little help.

The foreskin is supposed to be tight and non-retractable in childhood so that it provides protection, but it is supposed to retract and glide back and forth in adulthood. Teens are in transition between childhood and adulthood so frequently the foreskin is still non-retractable.

There are three possible reasons that a foreskin will not retract.

1. The tip of the foreskin is too tight to pass back over the head.

2. The frenulum is too short to permit retraction.

3. There is a fusion or adhesion of the inner foreskin to the glans penis.

It is not necessary to have a foreskin that will retract. Some men live their entire lives with a non-retractable foreskin. They can masturbate, have penetrative sex, get married, and father children with a foreskin that does not retract.


You may clean non-retractile foreskin with a rubber-bulb ear syringe. Just fill the syringe with lukewarm water and squirt it into the foreskin.

It is easy to make your foreskin wider and looser by manual stretching.


Almost all boys are born with a foreskin that does not retract. This is normal. It takes years for the ability to retract to develop. About ½ of boys have a retractable foreskin by 10.4 years of age. Many adolescents still have foreskins that have tips that are too narrow to pass back over the penis head. These foreskins may be gently stretched over a period of time to cause them to widen. In most cases, the foreskin becomes retractable by age eighteen.

When your penis is erect, gently pull your foreskin back against the head of the penis. As the head attempts to pass through the foreskin it will stretch the skin a little. Do this several times every day and in a few weeks or months your foreskin will widen and you will be able to retract your foreskin. Do NOT force retraction. Do NOT cause yourself pain.

It works by tissue expansion. Stretching skin induces “mitosis”, which is a word that means “division of cells”. New skin cells are formed and the skin grows but it takes some time. The increase in size is permanent. Be patient and give mitosis time to work.

The important thing is to put the skin under tension several times every day so that it will grow wider.

Betamethasone valerate ointment, which is available by prescription may help, but it won’t work by itself. Manual stretching is still required.








There are some who would want you to be circumcised. Circumcision is a horrible, mutilating, destructive, harmful operation, that takes off the best part of the penis. Recovery is difficult and painful. It should be considered a last resort after conservative treatment fails. One may prefer to remain as one is rather than undergo circumcision.


I always took you for ignorant and rather narrowminded, but suggesting to an underage person when they have a health issue not to tell their parents screams of utter stupidity and you should never, ever be taken seriously. Shame on you.


Me too I am getting rather annoyed with Bucky and his anti circumcision movement mates almost every post has him or one of his cronies spouting utter rubbish. Almost every doctor surgeries have to keep to their local clinical commissioning group rules on certain things like circumcisions and that other options have to be considered before circumcision can be referred for. Even if it’s not like that in USA for example I’m sure the patient would have long conversations about it anyway and the patient has to consent to it in any case. Most of bucky’s and cronies comments are unhelpful at best and they seem to paste the same thing every time sometimes they even have a go at u for not stretching before operation for one it’s too late and two how do they know other people’s surcumstances! They also seem to be oblivious to stretching doesn’t always work in some people I just wish they could be banned from here but hey ho

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I learned not to be bothered by his baseless assumptions and reposting the same three videos of "evidence" for "majority", those can be dusted off as just simple ignorance, bias and lack of general knowledge. But to suggest to keep a condition secret from the parents because "he" might not agree with something, is infuriating and outright harmful.


Nope that is completely wrong I think he should tell his dad that he has this problem and he’s gonna try some gentle stretching while in bath then if don’t work they can decide after discussion to go to their family GP. Keeping it a secret isn’t gonna help

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Hi Cipher:

Thanks for your opinion.

A tight foreskin (phimosis) is a condition, not a disease. It has no effect on health, so your sentiments are misplaced.

The risks associated with circumcision are far greater than any risks from non-retractile foreskin.


A tight foreskin isn't a disease but getting infections out of not being able to clean under the foreskin certainly one could call it a disease!


There is no mention of infection in this case.

Circumcision causes infection in ten percent of cases.



And the Earth rotates around the Sun? Any more generic statements or are we just throwing things around. I called it a condition myself, so not sure what the lecture was on. The condition of tight foreskin itself is not huge problem, it is it fact that it can add to and lead to development of other problems, such as infections, tearing, pain, discomfort and other potentially dangerous things such as increased possibility of contracting an STI/STD. So you are completely wrong, but you should be used to it by now. Then again, if you weren't completely biased you would have realised by now but talking to you is like throwing peas at a wall. Not very productive. I am generally not responding to your posts but if they are so full of lies and bias one has to react.

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