Shocked

[LouLamb]

Today my Aunty told me that the relative that died , died of pneumonia . I can't believe it .

She had it before and thought she had it on Tuesday when I stayed . The doctor on wendesday said her chest was clear and She had sick bug . He should have gave her antibiotics and she could still be here today .😡

[Wendy39]

It's very hard to digest news like that when you lose a loved one. It's bad enough them being take from you, let alone knowing there was something that could have been done etc. I had a similar experience when my step father passed away in 2013. It's a lot to process and makes the grief more difficult. It's such a shame we can't turn back time and deal with things differently, but that's not possible is it. I know this is a very difficult time for you but you will cope and you will get through it. Like someone said before, try to think of the happy times, special times you shared. You obviously adored her. Treasure that. Stay strong. X

[LouLamb in reply to Wendy39]

I Am thinking of the good times I shared with her and the family . I just can't believe that a doctor did not give her the right diagnosis . When looking up symptoms of pneumonia . She had all of them

[Cas70]

This is part of the processing in grief. We all think we could have saved them. Honestly, you will drive yourself to being more unwell if you go down the "what if" road. Miss her, grieve her, but don't dwell on the actual departure - what will you gain? I lost my beloved brother in February in a truly traumatic way. I look at his lovely photo and know I have to live every day to the full and enjoy - and look after his children. When you can, help others who grieve for her - it will help you. Make her proud x

[johare]

Its always sad to loose someone but when you think it could have been avoided the anger takes over the grief. As you've said, remember the good moments you shared.