Post traumatic stress disorder

[1949liz]

I have been diagnosed with PTSD because of the abuse of my husband physically mentally and mentally I find life ( people) so strange as we can be kind and caring about others and then you get so hurt by a comment.

This happened to me on Sunday, after Church we retired to have tea and a catch up.I am quite new at this Church and having a laugh feeling confidence in speaking as I suffer from Foreign Accent Syndrome felt great so to speak slowly help’s people to understand me. Then then the minister came over to our table. I was sharing about Shelly pinching the toilet roll and me with the towel wrapped around me chasing her into the garden. People were laughing and THEN the minister said to me Shelly is fat, Again Shelly is fat, after years of abuse and living in fear I panicked. It’s confusing and scary I wanted to answer her back but I am scared to do it so confrontation is my problem. I don’t want to return but why can’t people be kind. Why do I react? The pain is so real . I just feel I am angry with myself. Please what do I do. How do I change, and do I need to change. I am so tired and confused. Any ideas please Love Liz and Shelly yes she is a little bit overweight but she is walked three times a day and plays she is my only companion and I adore her. Liz x

[Nathalie99 Partner]

Hi Liz,

Welcome to the community...

It is really precious that you have your companion, Shelly. She is beautiful...

I understand that unkind words can hurt and I am so sorry that he said that, twice. Sometimes certain things are triggering for people who went through abuse.

Would it help to say something to him privately? Is he usually very abrupt?

I think sometimes people don't have energy to be kind and they are stressed, then take it out on others. We can only be kind ourselves. I think it makes a huge difference...